My ex left my 2 boys and I back in May 22 2006. We live in Illinois. She was putting property in a storage (which I paid for) some time. When she clean out the storage, she stole all my Christmas decorations and all my lights and some other personal property. But left a tree a mother gave her and my boys clothes. When opening the box today and guess what! It was broken! My children and me had a good laugh over that one! I knew we had problems in our relationship and thought that she would leave me. But I didn’t want to stop her because I was sick of her lies, cheating and personality disorders. I tried for 17 years to get us help. In counseling, therapy. You name and I tried it. But she wanted what she wanted. Still not sure what that may be. Well, back to my story. In less then 6 months, she left my two boys and I. She told the children and I that she would be living with her parents that lives in Illinois. But instead moved into (in less then a week after she left) a trailer park in Wisconsin with a (still) married man. Boyfriend’s ex left him and moved to CO. My ex was looking for her soul mate! Guess she found him. Mr. and Mrs. dysfunctional soul mates. Our two boys want nothing to do with her. My family can’t understand why any mother would just leave her children like that. After she left she tried to get me run over by a truck. Had two guys chase me into a store. Yes, I did call the police! Even after this I tried to work with her by giving her our home phone (boys didn’t want me too, wish I listen to them) She would call, call and call!. When my boys and me got sick of the calls, we wouldn’t answer the phone. No problem, she would just let the phone, Ring, ring and ring! When that didn’t work then she tried calling my oldest son’s friend cell number and pretended to be driving around (remember we live in Illinois and she now lives in Wisconsin) our town and wanted to know why no one was answering the home phone. My son's friend knew that she didn't live with us and told her to just keep trying. She asked to talk with her oldest son, but my son’s friend told her he wasn’t with him. The last straw with my home phone number came when her BF called me. I told ex that my phone number was for her to talk with her 2 (who didn’t want to speak with her anyway)sons and that I didn’t want anyone else to have it. Why did BF call, My two boys wrote their mother a note telling just how they felt about her actions. BF called threading me “not to have boys write those type of letter and if I wanted problems he will give it to me” and that they didn’t believe the boys wrote the letters. Well, I changed phone number! It’s been 2 months now with no contact from crazy people and it been great! Want to know what is really nuts. This person lost her two children before with her last ex and never knew her children from that relationship. They do not want anything to do with her to this day. Well, guess it’s our turn! Am I bitter, no she did us a favor by leaving us. I am mad about the way she is treating the children, lying to them and just leaving the state and then think our boys would understand her actions. Why anyone would destroy not only 2 children’s life, but then do it all over again with our two boys. I will never understand. Please people if you have a relationship with someone who is mentality or emotionally unstable, get them help and if they don’t want it! Just leave them. Don’t tell yourself that you wanted to stay together for the children, They deserve better and so do you. I only wish that I left her like I wanted so many times. (But I did love her at one time).But refused to because of our children. If I was able to do this over again, I would just pack our packs (the children and I) leave a goodbye note on the table. And book! But I would leave her with the Christmas tree and some decorations! Well dear readers, Merry Xmas and a happy New Year!....

Anyone else know any good xmas story with ex's. Love to hear them!

No, that one takes the cake. I can only think of two reasons a woman would leave her children. One is she’s unfit to begin with, bone selfish or mentally. The second is she so terribly abused she has to run and cannot take her children for some reason.

Time to get new Christmas traditions. Different lights or ornaments. You could do the whole tree in natural ornaments or outdoor stuff. Or sports stuff. You don’t have to spend a lot of money, even the most masculine, macho males can make some ornaments.

I hope you and your sons have a great holiday season.

Women leave their children for one of three reasons:

1. Mental health problems (theirs, not the kids)
2. Drug addictions.
3. Another man.

Or some combination of the above.

The b/f sounds like a real jerk. No doubt they are happy together.

To answer your question and/or statements

1)Mental health Problems (theirs, not the kids): Yes, she is what is called a NPD. Part of Narcissistic Personality Disorder is the conviction is that "I'm okay; it's everybody else who's not okay,"

2)Drug addictions: No not her, but I just learned that her b/f got busted for a charge on “Possess Drug Paraphemalia” his court date is today (11/29/06) in wisconsin!

3)Another man, Yes a real loser, His ex left him and moved across 4 states to get away from him! And they (b/f and his wife) are still married.

No abuse other then all the emotional stress she put my children and self thru!. I was trying to work on the relationship the day she walked out of our lives!

Sister is helping me with the christmas tree and trimming. Yes, we hope to have a good christmas w/o our NPD person! And hope all you posters have one as well! merry xmas to all and to all may god bless!

Hey, Sag, I hope you didn't think I meant to imply your wife left because of abuse.

No, no. Oh course not. But it’s interesting that you stated that. She told her b/f and family that I did beat her. She had bruises all over her body. My sister saw them as well. But the truth was that she got them working at Fed-x in the shipping department and would come home looking like that (she is a blue collar worker) One day when my sister and my ex were talking about it. I was joking about it telling my sister and her that someone would think that I was beating her up. Well, the joke was on me. But again no abuse from me, I wouldn’t allow it. She did attack me a few times in the beginning of the relationship but I put an end to it. Telling her if she tried that again I would call the police!

Well, just a update on Christmas with children and self. Because of my family's support and love; my children will have a very special Christmas. Our NEW tree is up and it's shinning bright! Strange, that when things can be so bad, Our love ones bring out so much love and support! I hope that those that are going thru their dark days know that family, friends and other's care for them and the warfare of the children. When things are at there worst, it bring the best out of us!