My WW told me that her lawyer said that my actions are reasons for her to divorce me. I am not sure what she is talking about so I thought I would tell MB what my actions have been.

Reading her email without her knowledge. This is how I found the OM

Opening my own checking account using money from the joint account. She opened her the next day. Did not tell her I was doing this.

Cancelled the joint credit cards without telling her.

Breaking into her laptop computer and reading information without her knowledge. I currently have a keylogger installed.

Writing a email to her OM telling him the truth about her. She claims that I lied to him. I let her read it.

Now she says that she cannot trust anything that I say. I tell her that I cannot trust her either.

She claims that these are things that would point toward divorce. My actions are why we are headed toward Divorce. It has nothing to do with the OM. I guess this is the way she feels good about it and clears her conscience. Most likely tells the kids that I am the one that made us divorce.

Thanks for input
R

If you are in California, it is a no fault divorce state. Meaning the 2 parties really don't need any reason to divorce. Colorado is the same way. My STBX and I are doing it ourselves... hopefully she can hold out until its over. If she has a lawyer, I hope you have one too.

Kuky,
I know it is a no fault state. But these are the things that the lawyer has told her that point to needing a divorce. I am not sure what that means it was something she threw out to me today.

I do have a lawyer, but do not want to use it. I am still hoping that things will work out between us.

I am thinking of taking a vacation this week away from her. Maybe going someplace by myself. She has to work the kids are in school and I need to get away. I know I have been told not to leave the house but I am not moving out just going on vacation alone.

R

I have to admit, I hope you know the truth about why you are divorcing, or currently heading towards one. I am heading there too, and just like you, my wife blames the whole thing on me, even though she is the one who had relations with some guy in the back seat of our car while I was at home giving the kids a bath and putting them to sleep, and she is already on her third boyfriend in a month.

From over here, if she has a lawyer, she is probably pretty serious about leaving.

The reasons in your first... no, don't point towards needing a divorce. If you both were willing to work on it, both were willing to reconcile and make it work, she would understand. Sometimes the guilty turn the tables on the other party to make it seem like they really aren't at fault.

BETRAYED,

When you start to ponder the wit and wisdom of your WS's divorce attorney it usually means your reset button needs resetting.

Quickly press two exposed live electrical wires to your genitals and as the smoke clears, understanding returns. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

The truth about D. No I do not know the real reasons, she tells me things that I am not sure I believe. Like she has a lawyer but won't give me the name. I have one and told her that with the name. I have one just to protect myself and kids. I needed advice on what to do incase and to protect my family. My lawyer is the one that gave me this website and Dr Harley's books.

I am willing to work on it but I am not sure that she is willing to work on it yet. I do believe that we are heading down the road to D. I think that she is waiting until after the Holidays for the kids. But yet again I am not sure as she only talks about this to her online buddies that are pro divorce.

I have balls and currently in plan A doing the 180 on her. It is working as it is making her think what is wrong with me and why am I being this way. Building love bank inthe mean time.

Thanks I didn't think that a lawyer would tell her that those things point to a man that is in the process of filing for a D.

Still working on saving my Marriage
R

Cymancr:

Infidelity does not kill marriages, the lying does

love your quote! not only marriages, but relationship as well!

This is right on! My stbx WH cheated. He apologized but lied the entire time even throughout the entire MC and to his IC.

At my suggestion which he agreed to that we would have a paralegal to file D rather than getting two attorneys to duke it out for us since we don't have kids. But the ****** wasn't capable of being honest. On 9/11/06 he lied for the last time. He was escorted to vacate by the LBPD.

Cheating is a form of lying...eventually killing the marriage.