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Hopeful.....just what are your principles?? Harsh as it may seem look at what you're writing. Giving him a beat down will never stop your W's behavior....face it, she likes the attention and you have done nothing to stop it...
So, my advice to you is to check your pockets for your pair and "MAN UP!!" Stop this EA (most likely gone to PA) AT ALL COSTS!!!! Expose, interfere and make their little fling miserable!!!
We have all seen many men idle by "waiting" for their WW to change but not really giving them reason to....
If you're not willing to fight for your marriage call a lawyer....cause that's where you'll be headed.....unless you take her back after getting everything all consummated....
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I'm confused....
if this is totally an online EA
from HER employer's computer
how do you know the intimate details of their conversations?
Pep <~~~ lost for the moment
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Read my thread. I don't have time to go through it all right now. The thread is still on page 1 as of right now. I love helping other people out and giving advice, but I wouldn't mind if some of you pros responded to my update as well.
- Jim
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I thought she was doing this from work?
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I'm confused....
if this is totally an online EA
from HER employer's computer
how do you know the intimate details of their conversations?
Pep <~~~ lost for the moment [/quote]
I'm assuming she is emailing from a yahoo or hotmail account that can be accessed from any computer. She communicates from work because she knows her BH can't catch her communicating there (and she doesn't know that he has her password).
- Jim
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OK
got it... Thanks!
I suggest the following
hire a very good PI to get every detail possible on/about OM
spare no expense (it will be cheaper than a divorce)
before you try exposure
name
address
employer
X-wives
kids
criminal record
car he drives
the whole enchalada
you need more weapons before exposure
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Don't divulge this information to your WW when she asks how you know as you will need this later. Keep your sources to yourself as she will go deeper underground if she finds out.
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how did you verify what you know about OM?
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What are you accomplishing now? A BIG FAT NUTHIN! I am suggesting that you tell her what you know without giving her your source. Give her an opportunity to come clean and confess this secret email account. Ask her to become completely transparent and attend MC with you. If she doesn't do those things, then you can move to exposure. But you have to start somewhere.
There has to be a goal to all this sleuthing, SH. The goal of intel is not to just get it and do nothing. You have to DO something with it lest it is just useless.
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Do you think you might be able to get access to install a hardware key logger on her work computer or a friend at her work that might be able to do this for you? These devices do not interfere with the computer at all and only log keystrokes. They plug into the back of the computer, so if your wife doesn't have a reason to go plugging in cables, she won't find it.
- Jim
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