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^^bump^^ for stillhopefulh
BH - me 53, ONS 1979
FWW - 51, 2 EA's, 1 PA
Last D-Day, Sep. 30, 2003
Last Contact/recovery began 2-26-04
***You can do anything with time and money...but remember...money won't buy you time!***
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My WW called a friend to get the OM's number, bought a prepaid calling card, and called the OM from a pay phone. Don't tell me that WWs aren't like crack addicts.
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Any update stillhopefulh? I hope you exposed. Please let us know how you are doing.
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stillhopefulh, I'm doing it again. I'm screaming at my computer. I want to shake you.
STOP rationalizing this for her! She is doing you wrong, she is disrespecting you and your marriage! It doesn't matter if she takes her clothes off or if she has, it doesn't matter if she ever sees this guy...every time she shares an intimate detail with him she is stepping outside your marriage!!
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YOU CAN STOP THIS. It's scary. It's hard. Will you do it anyway?? hopeful....read her post...read it over and over for strength. There are so many situations that we see here on this forum and you must understand YOUR CASE IS NOT SPECIAL!!! If you could propose my FWW's history to her and I we would say "never"....but I know better...and so do so many on this forum...my FWW loathes cheaters...yet she joined their ranks!!! What has happened is you have decided to "defend her" from the folks convinced that it has gone into the PA stage (of which I am one)...instead of dealing with what we're saying about exposing, etc... Your marriage is over...what you describe is not a marriage is it? You can make some tough decisions and enforce boundaries or you can be a door mat and allow her to continue getting her ego stroked....there is nothing anyone can do here for you...YOU must do it....we're here to support you...we really are...
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dunno... he must have felt too pushed to take action by the forum. I wondered if I didn't push too hard. I hope he's still reading and learning. I hate it when people just disappear...
stillhopefulh... how about an update?
BH - me 53, ONS 1979
FWW - 51, 2 EA's, 1 PA
Last D-Day, Sep. 30, 2003
Last Contact/recovery began 2-26-04
***You can do anything with time and money...but remember...money won't buy you time!***
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I hope he does something. I know exactly how afraid he feels. How his mind is rationalizing away all of his suspicions but he's about to get hurt a whole lot worse than he can ever imagine and he'll regret not having done *something* earlier.
BH (me): 35
FWW: 34
Married 13 years
3 children, S9,S7,D4
3 DDays: EA June 05, EA May 06, PA Nov 06,
NC 14 months, recovering
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I agree... he deleted his posts on Just Found Out...
BH - me 53, ONS 1979
FWW - 51, 2 EA's, 1 PA
Last D-Day, Sep. 30, 2003
Last Contact/recovery began 2-26-04
***You can do anything with time and money...but remember...money won't buy you time!***
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