I have a friend of mine that recently started dating a stripper. I am very disappointed in him on several fronts and just wanted some opinions about this before speaking with him in depth.
While I KNOW that all strippers are not prostitutes.. I can tell you from my days as a cop in Philly that more than a few are. And FTR, even though it is legal, I consider performing a "lap dance" prostitution.
My other major concern is that a stripper has one goal in mind... to make money. It doesn't matter to her (or him) if the person that she is having stuff money in her G string is married or not. If a single person wants to visit a stripper and waste his hard earned money.. that's his problem... but when married men (or women) visit an establishment and spend money in that fashion, I consider that cheating. And the stripper IMHO is just the OW for that moment (or minutes if it is a lap dance).
Just looking for some insight on my views.
MEDC

I agree MEDC

I agree as well.

Well my opinion is that strippers ARE hookers. It's all skin trade.

I agree also. But instead of being angry, I just feel sad for them. Perhaps these women feel they have no other choices.

My husband's infidelity was with a prostitute and he caught an STD. I only feel pity for her. How little she must feel she is worth.

So, I guess my view is:

stripper = prostitute

but neither seems like an "OW" to me.

MEDC, you are a cop. Did you ever bust a prostitute? Did you ever get the feeling they feel trapped in their situation? Or am I just a bleeding heart?

VERY MUCH AGREE MEDC!!! Funny, I was just having this conversation with Mr. W...he too agrees, btw...In fact, I said, that if any other female, besides a stripper, were to go topless in a g-string and grind on a crotch, EVERYBODY would consider it cheating...interesting that some folks don't consider it so when it is being paid for-That IS Prostitution...

Mrs. W

Hey there MEDC. I hope things are going well for you.

I once dated a gal that was a stripper. She, of course, left this little teeny weenie detail out of the picture until we had been dating for several months.

I think I felt special until then. LOL.

When she told me I was floored as I thought she just cut hair for a living. Sheesh. Am I gullible or what?

Anyways, she went absolutely psycho bananas when I broke up with her because, yes, I did have a serious problem with other guys gawking at my girl’s boobies and stuffing money in her garter.

Not to mention the fact that I didn’t feel like I was getting my point across that pasties are not considered “covering wardrobe”.

The thing about strippers, that isn’t solely based upon my experience with this one woman, is that it seems to me they only have like one boundary left at all. (Not intended to be a DJ to any strippers reading this). <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

We just had a discussion not long ago about the polar extremes between Hitler and Mother Theresa. My red neck qualifications tell me that this girl ain’t gonna be nowhere near the good end of the measuring stick using those comparables.

But I’d be entertained hearing someone explain how I could be so far from the mark on that previous statement.

I can’t for the life of me understand what that last of the Mohicans’s boundary might be, but I’m just giving them the benefit of the doubt that they have one at all anywhere.

That would be my biggest concern.

I guess this is all perspective though. There are plenty of single men out there that time lease prostitutes regularly and live life happy as a clam that way.

But what am I doing telling you all about this anyway, you are a cop! You know this will end up with your friend getting hurt; potentially in more ways than just a broken heart.

My question is for your friend. It would be "with 3.5 billion women on this planet, why would you pick a stripper?"

Arrested them every week.The funny thing is about half are men (we would call them chicks with sticks). Most are supppoting a drug habit. It's all really pretty sad. They are not trapped in those situations... they chose that life... and really are scum.
Plank... great questionand I think I will pose it to my friend. Funny thing is, he met her at her full time job.... in a bank! Go figure! I hope you are well too my friend.
Thanks for the other opinions.

and the bank has no problem with her night job? i would think they would be concerned about their reputation. "hey, i know that teller, she gave me a lap dance last night!" you get the picture...

mlhb

on the other hand I bet her drawer is never out of ones

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LMAO!!!!!!

that could be an asset for poker night. I see the added value now.

My best friend's daughter (straight A student, voted Miss (Our town)) went to Santa Barbara for college. She was on a scholarship, but worked nights as a dancer. I always thought something was suspicious, because she had a nice car, clothes, etc.

We only found out because her roommate got angry at her, and called her mom. Her college roommate was a dancer too.

But her case is probably one in a million. She finished school, and has a GREAT job now, as a photographer........

Or maybe that isn't true, either.

Plank...Did you know that they took the word "gullible" out of the dictionary? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Mrs. W <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

SaturnRising...

you are somewhat correct in that many of these girls have been lured or found themselves in desperate situations in life. We can feel sad for them... just like we can feel sad for a WS. But each one of them is making choices.

There are a lot of people in desperate situations who still choose right.

As many of the discussions here have emphasized, maybe we cannot judge the person... but we can judge their actions and choices. And they aren't doing anything to help out society or themselves.

As to boundaries, Plank... isn't one boundary for them that they won't kiss on the lips???? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> ... or is that just for the "pretty" ones?

Shaden

In my past, way in my past I dated and lived with as roommates with exotic dancers. As in all walks fof life you will find people that are bad and those that are good. most the girls I knew wouldn't dance nude, and none of them did tricks. Most of them wouldn't grind either. Most of these girls were putting themselves through college on the money they made, some even were married and had happy marriages. To them it was a job.... I would say most of them had shattered past, some trauma or just bad lives growing up. Most came from disadvantage upbringings, they were doing their best with what they had. Most of the girls I knew once they could give up the lifestyle they were a thousand miles away from it.... So I know we have a social conscious about nudity and sexuality and I agree if your in a relationship a strip club is no where where you should be. But not all men or women are in relationships and a lot of clubs are just that bars and clubs that also have topless or bottomless dancer's.

I an not defending it but i wanted to weigh in a different prespective.

Also NONE of the girls I knew would ever go out with a married man... oh so many would try but these girls would never cross that line.

maybe they wouldn't go out with a married man... but they were trying to get them turned on enough to fork over their money. sorry.... nothing against your friends... but, IMHO that defines who they are at that moment.

bwhaaaaaaaaaa <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

You have to admire a girl with standards.

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Wow.

I especially love this part:

Gotta love those christians.