I'm engaged and, as of this moment, my fiance and I are in two different states. Once we graduate the fall of 2007, we'll more than likely be moving to New York due to our careers. My fiance is aware of my feelings towards living together before marriage, but I am also aware of his wish to live together before marriage. He does not want to live together more than six months though--just enough time for us to plan our 2008 wedding.

Since there's a clear date set for our wedding, should I go ahead and give six months a shot? I went as far as insisting on living in the same city as him but in another apartment and he seemed hurt. I was so pesimistic towards marriage for many years; it's a major break-through for me to even consider living with him.

Thanxs for the comments/questions in advance...

~MsBlink [color:"red"] [/color] [color:"red"] [/color] [color:"red"] [/color]

I'm of the opinion that living with someone before making a drastic change like marriage is a good thing. You can only benefit from learning more about the person you hope to spend the rest of your life with.

Of the other hand, you have reservatioons about moving in prior. You should determine what reservatins you have and see if there's any way to resolve them. For instance, if you have moral issues about sleeping in the same bed, maybe having separate bedrooms in the same house would be acceptable.

You can't set aside your ethics without settings aside a core part of who you are but you may have options that can suit both needs.

Read Dr. Harley's material, he explains why it is a bad idea. And to be honest, I've tried it and he's right!