Many of you may have seen some previous posts I have had in different groups. I am thinking about implementing Plan A right now but I know it is going to be hard just because her and I are on good terms as friends right now and if I start telling siblings and parents about the affair then I know things are going to blow up. In any case my wife has had an affair with another guy. Each and every morning I wake up and text about the things I am pissed of about and today it was that she needs to cut off the contact with the OM and he cannot not give drum lessons to our son. She said I should have expected this as I went ot bed last night thinking we were OK with everything, I know I have done some wrong things and am trying to accomodate by giving up a lot but it doesn't seem like it is enough. She has agreed to have our son go to another drum teacher now but did not say anything about not being in contact with the OM. I understand a lot of what is going through her mind and what she is feeling as I just read Womens Infidelity at
www.womensinfidelity.com. Her thinking is very clouded right now. This part is fine I can do this and take the hard stance. What I don't know how to work on is her relationship with her best friend for 10 years whom she has had a lesbian relationship with and now the are just "close friends". She tells her everything. Including this infidelity and now this friend who is married and has 3 children and lives in Washington is talking to this OM as well! I told my wife that she is indirectly supporting the start of another possible affair. How should I deal with the best friend thing? Her friend has already had a counselor who told her to end the friendship, my wife has had me and several others that she needs to end the friendship but she want as she says this person filled the void in her marriage for a very long time.
