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I married my first husband at a very young age and we have a 16 year old daughter together. We divorced when she was 3 years old. I remarried 8 years ago and that marriage ended in divorce as well. I stayed very close and friendly to my 1st husban all these years and we have always worked together when it comes to raising our daughter. We have supported eachother through a lot of difficult times over the years and I feel that we truly care and respect one another.
Over the last year we have spent a lot of time together and have had a really good time. We laugh constantly and we enjoy the same things. We have really great conversations with eachother.
Recently he has mentioned that he would like us to "date" eachother again and see if we can make a go of it. I know we love eachother but I am afraid of ruining a terrific relationship. He is my best friend and I still incredibly attracted to him but I am really scared if it weren't to work out.
Should I take a chance?
Any/all opinions welcome.
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Hi Kel_again, I am curious as to why u guys divorce in the first place. SOrry I have no solution as of now. But from what u wrote, it sounds promising and practical. U must be so scared right now just thinking about it.
Hi all!
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It's hard to put a finger on why we divorced...it's been so long. I think we were really young and thought we wanted different things out of life...now it seems we want the same things. Ironic I know. Our divorce was OK...not bitter or hateful, it was very friendly.
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There is a statistic relating to couples who divorce and eventually end up remarrying - I think it is about 15%? Why did your second marriage end - if you don't mind me asking? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Alph.
Me, BS 37
Him, WXH (Noddy) 40
DD13, DD6
Married 14th August 1993
D/Day 2nd April 05
Noddy left us 3rd April 05, lives with OW (Omelette) 28
Divorce final 6th July '06.
Time wounds all heels... - Groucho Marx
...except when it doesn't. - Graycloud
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I think I remember reading somewhere that there is a 15% chance of success in remarriages of people who previously divorced each other -- as opposed to 50% in the general population and 40% of all second marriages (a population which includes the remarried divorces)
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Why did your second marriage end - if you don't mind me asking? Good question! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />
ME:46
DS:15
DS:12
In a relationship w/NPD for 17 yrs.
ended:05/22/06: Thank you God!
Mark Twain: "As I got older, my father got smarter"
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Wow, I can't imagine dating my ex spouse for anything less than massive head trauma and complete amnesia of the past! Our divorce wasn't friendly though - there was too much deceit and betrayal.
The fact that you have maintained a good friendship and that your divorce was friendly are encouraging. Also, that you want the same things in life.
If divorce didn't ruin your friendship the first time, why do you think that if dating doesn't work out this time it will ruin your friendship?
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