My FWH and I were playing a game with our kids tonight, our daughter who is in 9th grade is giggling and talking about her new trimester. She proceeds to tell us that in health they will be learning about herpes and crabs, and all the STD, well for those of you who don't know my FWH story, 15 yrs ago I suspected him of cheating because he had "crabs". He lied denied all of these years until he finally told me 6 mo. ago. So anyways I became very uncomfortable (trigger) and you could tell H was very uncomfortable too, our daughter could tell and of course she doesn't know but she's like what what's the matter. So anyways I was bothered because it brought back up some things I just don't get, like how he could have had them and not worried that he could have given them to me or some other STD. So I asked him how he could not have thought of that, he said he didn't know. I said well it doesn't seem to bother you at all that you did that. He says I don't want to talk about it, what can I do about it now, I can't change what I didn't do or think of back then. I said well it's something that I find bothersome. He said again he didn't want to talk about it because he didnt'want to start an argument.
He doesn't like to talk about it really at all. I don't really ask questions anymore, usually mines more of a comment about it. When I have a trigger and become down and distant, he wont talk about it, he actually does the opposite and becomes distant. He says he doesn't know what to say? He'll tell me he loves me or will say I'm sorry but he wont talk about it. Should he be, is this normal of a WS? THanks
