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I have a good question that I need help with. My husband has cheated on me while serving in the Marines and was busted down two ranks and put in jail. He made friends with a couple who are having problems and are suppose to divorce. I heard through the grapvine that they slept together. This was in Japan, now he is home and she is just in the U.S. and wants my husband to come visit her in NC and we live in FL. Should I let him go visit her knowing that I really don't trust him? What should I do?
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I have a good question that I need help with. My husband has cheated on me while serving in the Marines and was busted down two ranks and put in jail. He made friends with a couple who are having problems and are suppose to divorce. I heard through the grapvine that they slept together. This was in Japan, now he is home and she is just in the U.S. and wants my husband to come visit her in NC and we live in FL. Should I let him go visit her knowing that I really don't trust him? What should I do? Letting him go says you approve of the affair. Is this the message you want to send?
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I have a good question that I need help with. My husband has cheated on me while serving in the Marines and was busted down two ranks and put in jail. He made friends with a couple who are having problems and are suppose to divorce. I heard through the grapvine that they slept together. This was in Japan, now he is home and she is just in the U.S. and wants my husband to come visit her in NC and we live in FL. Should I let him go visit her knowing that I really don't trust him? What should I do? NO. Do you have children? If you don't, I would recommend getting rid of this serial cheater. If he decideds to go to NC anyway. Expose him again, and get him put in jail and dropped down another couple ranks. Give us a little more background.
Jim BS - 32 (me) FWW - 33 Married 8/31/03 No kids (but 3 cats) D-Days - 8/25/06 (EA), 11/3/06 (PA) NC agreed to - 11/8/06 NC broken - 11/28/06, 12/16/06, 1/18/07, 1/26/07, 1/27/07 Status - In Recovery Jim's Story
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Friends can become lovers/adulterers but lovers/adulterers can NEVER become friends.
THAT friendship is OVER the day he slept with her.
Mr. Wondering
FBH(me)-51 FWW-49 (MrsWondering)
DD19 DS 22 Dday-2005-Recovered
"agree to disagree" = Used when one wants to reject the objective reality of the situation and hopefully replace it with their own.
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I heard through the grapvine that they slept together. They are not "friends" if they slept together. Even so, no H should be visiting females unless it is his momma or his grandma. That is not trustworthy behavior.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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