I wasn't sure if I should start another post while I have another one going, but I didn't want to have my other post change topic. I still really need help with all of this mess. So I apologize for starting a new post while I still have another active one.

I'm not horrible at the snooping thing, but my wife did find the digital recorder I put in her car and I did tell her that I was checking her work email. So I guess it's not a strength of mine.

I was wondering what people did to find out what is or was going on in the work place if the wayward spouse works with the other person.

In my situation they work in a secure building, so i can't walk into their offices or even get in the building without my wife coming to the front to let me in.

I thought about paying a hacker to get me her new email password, but I have concerns about getting caught and also how far am I willing to sink to find out what my wife is up to.

Any thoughts on how I can find out what is going on inside the work place?

Expose the affair to her boss. Get his support in ending the affair, at least while they're in that workplace.

Get a keylogger on her computer at home to try to get her password. Don't try doing so with her work computer...odds are you'd be setting yourself up for a lawsuit from wherever she works for.

Owl,

I'm not sure there is an affair right now. I really am not getting a feeling that my wife and the OM are still talking to each other, I think that is part of why she is so angry at me and depressed. I think she is mad that my confrontation with the OM scared him off.

Before exposing I wanted to confirm that they're still is contact before I go off the deep end. I should have exposed the affair to their supervisor when I first found out, but without proof of continued contact I don't feel confortable exposing right at this moment.

If I do confirm contact, than I will expose to everyone.

My wife refuses to check her email account at home. I've had a keylogger since d-day.

Thanks Owl, I will reconsider my position about exposing to her supervisor. This is just so overwhelming and I am just so sorry that I just discovered this website and Dr Harley's book.

Have you checked out the thread "Spying 101" for hints? There's a link to that thread below. Additionally, if you have some friends/relatives who can assist, it might be possible to follow her when she does leave that building.

Do you have any allies in her work group? Can you cultivate any? (Quick way to get supervisor as a possible ally is to expose to him/her, like Owl is telling you.)

Failing all that, if you can afford a hacker, perhaps you can find a private investigator in the local area who can do a professional surveillance for you. It’s expensive, but if you intend to apply MB principles to recover your marriage based on what you find out, it would be worth it.

Get strong, pardner. You’re in a war to save your family and you’ll have to do a lot of tough things to get that done.