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A Question of Semantics and Plans-Thoughts? #1780366 12/09/06 10:31 AM
Joined: Oct 2004 Posts: 1,575 BC, Canada F fightingalone-again Member
fightingalone-again Member F Joined: Oct 2004 Posts: 1,575 BC, Canada	I think it is imperative to realize that the words both that we use and the words the WS uses can say a LOT or nothing at all. Plan B Letter: In my opinion the words can, can't, cannot, etc should NEVER be used! Everyone has a choice. So if a BS says I can't do this anymore, it dilutes their boundaries. Sure you can stay in a triangle. Sure you can be a doormat. Sure you can be the victim. BUT, the BS is choosing not to DO that. The accurate words are will not, won't, etc. There is a strength in choosing. There is none in "can't" The WS: As soon as I hear the words I'll try, I'll think about it, etc., alarms go off. For the same reason. Trying, is leaving the door open for an exit. Trying means at a later date the WS can say, Well, I tried. The words to look for are "I WILL! BS-58/XH48 D final Dec31/07 Long hard road & at peace now Unrepentant serial cheater living with DP4 for 4yrs

Re: A Question of Semantics and Plans-Thoughts? fightingalone-again #1780367 12/09/06 12:10 PM
Joined: Jun 2006 Posts: 6,058 M Mark1952 Member
Mark1952 Member M Joined: Jun 2006 Posts: 6,058	Bravo! Well said! Mark

Re: A Question of Semantics and Plans-Thoughts? Mark1952 #1780368 12/09/06 12:19 PM
Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas M MelodyLane Member
MelodyLane Member M Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas	Agree. "Trying" is a weasel word that means nothing in these situations. "It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101

Re: A Question of Semantics and Plans-Thoughts? MelodyLane #1780369 12/09/06 01:15 PM
Joined: Oct 2004 Posts: 1,575 BC, Canada F fightingalone-again Member
fightingalone-again Member F Joined: Oct 2004 Posts: 1,575 BC, Canada	Quote "Trying" is a weasel word that means nothing in these situations. Mel you have such a way with words. roflmao BS-58/XH48 D final Dec31/07 Long hard road & at peace now Unrepentant serial cheater living with DP4 for 4yrs

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