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Anyone else having this struggle? The settlement agreement is behind us. She is really mad thinking I've cheated her, and at least by email, now claims that she never wants to have anything to do with me ever again. (She gets enough money to never work again a day in her life, but that's a different story) I still have hope that one day her heart will soften to where we can remember fondly our 27 years together, and maybe even spend some pleasant days together with our adult children. I'm getting my Christmas shopping list wrapped up and wondering what is appropraite to send to the former love of my life. So I'm thinking that some sort of gift is appropriate - likely nothing that last to remind her months from now - or maybe. Seems like a nice basket of treats is right for the occasion. Ideas?
In the ant's house the dew is a flood
Every day is a winding road
Every way is a faded sign
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That’s really sweet. A little nutty, but very sweet. I think treats would be good. Just don’t expect her to be grateful or gracious about the gift.
Divorced.
2 Girls
Remarried 10/11/08
Widowed 11/5/08
Remarrying 12/17/15
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My STBX husband has given me a very expensive gift this year (laptop and printer). I really need it, but it feels strange to receive such a nice gift from someone who wants to divorce me. It's a nice gesture - but I feel like he is not being fair in our settlement ( I will have to work for the rest of my life).. and the gift feels a bit like he is throwing me a bone.
If you have a tendency to express your affection by buying things for others (as opposed to showing up emotionally), then I would suggest you write a note on a special holiday card - something from your heart and skip the material bait.
Me - far from a perfect person - but trying to improve all the time
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STBX will be getting a basket of teas and tea set in a few days. She's still the mother of DD and DS and means a lot to me for our history and those good times together. Even if she can't stand me now - maybe forever.
Best wishes to all MB friends this holiday season! [color:"red"] [/color]
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