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Just wondering. Is this a common statement by WS's? That they want time to be alone with their thoughts? That they will not see the OP, and that they just want to sort out their feelings towards the R and M? Or is it just a way for them to distance themselves from you while at the same time continue on the A? I'm not talking about the WS moving out or anything, just that they want to be left alone to think. How long should we allow them to be alone, if at all?
Dev
BS - 31 (me)
WW - 29
M ~2 years, No kids
DDay - 2nd Dec 2006
Exposed - 15th Jan 2007
NC started - 14th Jan 2007
NC broken 23rd Jan 2007
NC broken many times since
Status: WS moved out 22 March 07 "to think"; A ongoing still; 2nd July 2007 - signed Divorce papers "I'm done!"
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Dev,
It works out better if you stay on one thread...that way your story stays all in one place.
If you have a new issue you want to address, go to your first post on your original thread and click "edit" and change the title...then those who want to reply to your new sitch or question can read your new title and pop on your thread and read your entire sitch.
And, yes, asking for time alone is VERY common.
~ Marsh
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Dev
BS - 31 (me)
WW - 29
M ~2 years, No kids
DDay - 2nd Dec 2006
Exposed - 15th Jan 2007
NC started - 14th Jan 2007
NC broken 23rd Jan 2007
NC broken many times since
Status: WS moved out 22 March 07 "to think"; A ongoing still; 2nd July 2007 - signed Divorce papers "I'm done!"
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LOL Already did. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
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Or is it just a way for them to distance themselves from you while at the same time continue on the A? Yes. And yes, it's very common. We see it here all the time. Mulan
Me, BW
WH cheated in corporate workplace for many years. He moved out and filed in summer 2008.
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