As you may have read my husband moved out on Sun and I called the OW husband that night also. Tonight our boss (we work for same co) talke dto my husband-he considers us family. He called me and said that my H said that him and OW are just friends and he believes him. He said that he told my H that he got too close to her but he blieves that they are just friends.

My boss also spoke to the OW (she is a client of ours)she insists that they were just friends and she would NEVER leave her husband.

I see the cell phone bills he would call her immediately upon leaving home at 6:15 am and leaver her messages-the secret cards he has given her-the secret meetings for coffee-he admitted they kissed-all those things dont add up to just friends to me.

My boss is meeting her and her husband on Friday to "try to smooth things over" of course her husband believes her. I wanted to believe my husband wasnt doing anything either. Her husband is a dr. and refers a lot of clients to us.

Am I crazy?? Did I do the right thing by calling her husband? I really dont believe the friendship thing but maybe I am reading more into this...then I think that mayeb she was leading him to believe that she may actually leave her husband for him and he believed her.

I need support here.

You need to give all of your evidence to your boss and OWH. Don't let your WH and OW try and smooth things over. Let them know what was REALLY going on and demand NC.

My husband has moved out so I cant really demand anything until he decides he wants to come back. I told her husband about the cell phone calls, the flowers all of that and he still believes her. I am going to show my boss tomorrow the cell phone bills because I dont think people get the extent of it until you see on paper-he would call sometimes 3-4 times from 6:15 -6:30 am leaving messages.

OWH needs to see those bills and talk with you, not just get a voicemail message. I'm sure if you are not the jealous b!tch OW portrayed you out to be, OWH might be more inclined to listen.

It wasnt voice mail I actually talked to him on his cell phone.

Don't forget that most people probably have never heard of an EA. That being the case, many people involved in EA's do consider themselves "just friends". They believe no sex - no affair. Exposure is great so no problem calling OWH. It sounds like nobody wants to believe you. If you have evidence, show it to those who can help you break up the A.