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Bob pure, link to "not being friends " letter
#1785352 12/13/06 04:40 PM
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I was told you had a great letter somewhere titled "I am not interested in being your friend." can anyone provide more info or the link to where I may find it??? thanks

Fightingback BS (me) 36 WS 39 3 kids 3,4,8 together 15yrs EA 9/06, PA 10/06 12/07 plan A 1/13/07 WS moves out 1/27/07 1st attempt plan B 2/20/07 REAL plan B
Re: Bob pure, link to "not being friends " letter
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Here's his post and a link:

HTW's thread

"Dear WW

I am not interesting in anything less that a recommitment to our marriage from you. I do not want you as a friend, nor an acquaintance.

I am willing to work on our marriage as hard as I am able if you come home, no strings attached, behave transparently, remain in total verifiable NC and treat me and the kids respectfully.

If you do not want that I want no part of you in my life other than as co-parent. It would hurt me toomuch.

But you must do what you think is best.

HTW"
Re: Bob pure, link to "not being friends " letter
sdguy038 #1785354 12/14/06 03:10 AM
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Hello FB

I saw the callout but I see SDG already pointed you at my "letter" ( more like a "note" or a " postage stamp! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> "

All I would add is that the averment of boundaries like this only work if you mean them.

If you ARE willing to have your WS in any way you can in your life, then don't send such a note as this.

Have you read "love must be tough" by James Dobson ? It explains this approach very well IME.

All blessings.

MB Alumni

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