Awesome progress today.

Can you just imagine how mad she is and how miserable she is going to be making him?

Be the lighthouse

Sis: I will probably drop in here from time to time as the Loyal Opposition. I just don't want to see you get shot down in flames from the rather successful "high" that you are on right now.

So, let's get this straight. Your WH is going to take your children over to his parent's house for New Year's Eve and neither of his parents is going to be there - but you are not worried about the kids being around OW because your FIL doesn't want her in the house.

Hon, you've got to be kidding. If you think WH and Skank Ho aren't going to spend New Year's Eve together one way or another, you haven't been reading here long enough.

It's quite possible that WH will invite her over for a while anyway and simply not care if the kids tell you. Boy, that would take the wind out of your happy sails, wouldn't it, as far as WH is concerned? WS are not happy unless the BS is defeated and miserable. Do NOT underestimate the lengths they will go to in order to achieve this.

Or he'll simply take them somewhere else for the NYE celebration, like a restaurant or a block party or something. What sorts of public parties are going on in your community tonight?

Or he'll wait until they're tucked in bed and she'll come over then - and leave before the kiddies wake up.

Again, I am not trying to throw cold water on your plans - I just want you to be prepared for what the two of them might do and not be paralyzed by the shock when they do.

I've got a lot to say about the condoms, too, but that should probably wait for another post.

Please, please, please be careful and protect yourself both physically AND emotionally.
Mulan

I'm not positive Mulan, but somewhat sure that Sis's FIL is still there and doesn't leave for a couple weeks yet.

Can anyone confirm?

Jo

That is my understanding as well.

No, No, NO! Mulan!! FIL lives there, and he is there tonight and planning to be around all night.

I was just there, in my low cut going out shirt, smelling nice and all made up. Hung around until WH thought the coast was clear and he could come out, so I got to see him. After I kissed the boys good bye, I went through the kitchen to leave, where WH was popping Pizza rolls in the oven. I reached up, hugged him, and kissed him on the neck, as he struggled to escape (hopefully my lipstick left a mark). "Happy NY, ILY"

WH: Thanks. Have fun.
LS: I will! See ya!
LS: (walking out the door) Did you like my present?
WH: huh.
LS: (gleefully) I knew you would! (door shuts.)

The present was sitting on the floor. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

Oh well. I'm off to go grocery shopping and to a movie. I just had to come home, report to my superiors, and change into a sweater...that going out shirt is chilly!

Mission accomplished (for tonight)

LS

What was it??? I'm dyin over here.

She's talking about the present she gave WH -

Well, LilSis - he couldn't exactly put it in his car or take it to OW's house.

You did great, Sis!

Remember your Plan A is to create positive lasting impressions of you within your husband. You then successfully set yourself up for Plan B.

Jo

Oh, okay. Thanks B. So this was not another present and was the nightie etc., yes?

And if LilSis can continue for a little longer, I KNOW the OW will start LB'ing. LOL

I was going for positive...this was positive, right? See...I'm so confused.<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

Well, I BETTER be on the right track, because after I packed up the Vibe with milk, eggs, bread, Carnation Instant Breakfast and cereal (my staples), I headed over to the local multiplex to see The Holiday. I had a little time to kill, so the mind starts working...there's a bar right next to the theater, so I go in there to set the right "mood" (lots of background noise), and called WH...or rather, his VM.

"Hi honey, it's me. I was just thinking about when I gave you that kiss on your neck that you smelled sooo nice. I just wanted to cuddle right up to your neck. I can't stop thinking about it. I'm really looking forward to when you will take me up on my offer...love you. bye."

(the offer being the any time, any place, bring the bag, yada yada)

Yes, Jo, "the present" referred to the little blue bag with the scented tissue paper carefully concealing the sexy little number...since it was sitting on the kitchen floor I wonder if he even opened it. My bet is that tomorrow when he drops off the kids, he drops off the present, too. Thanks but no thanks. I just have this feeling...

And you accomplished "Positive", Sis.

I was just reminding you so if you didn't get any kind of reaction or immediate currency from your H for your latest efforts you wouldn't let it get you down or give into depression of any sort. Give it time and let it gel with him.

Don't start doubting yourself, Sis. You're doing everything right. You haven't love busted, you're Plan A is near flawless.

Jo

If he drops it off, grin at him and tell him flirtatiously that you'll hold onto it for him till he's ready. No ifs, just when.

I'm going to be gone for anywhere from a couple of days to a week, but will try to check in when I'm able. You are doing so good!!!

One last tiny rant about the size thing. No matter how far he had to bend over to kiss you, that is what he was used to. If you were a giantess and the OW was a midget, he would miss your size. Since you are the pocket Venus and she is the giantess, he misses your petiteness.

'Our' OW is 5'6", only 2 inches taller than me, and it was still enough to throw off the sense of familiarity and comfort. (I know how much she weighs, too. *snicker*)

Your WH might have found a temporary novelty in her height, but after a while she will just seem large as he compares her endlessly to you.

It's like getting a doll Christmas morning, playing with it for a few hours, then realizing you would much rather play with your other doll instead. (And then the new doll turns into Bride of Chucky. But that's another story.)

Do not DARE feel inferior because you're little and cute. If it were a problem for him, he would never have married you in the first place!

Bottom line: he cannot replace you, no matter how hard he tries.

Just before he comes to drop off the boys, I am going to call and ask if he can come in and replace the water filter from the kitchen sink. It is IMPOSSIBLE to remove (no kidding) and there's no way I can undo it.

So...maybe score a few points for NEEDING him...

(If I don't call, he'll just do the hit and run drop off...and he'd even send the present with one of the boys I betcha)

Work it, work it, don't get discouraged...Jo's right. It's hard to keep this up getting nothing back but rejection. And I haven't even done it that long.

I 2nd Neak's insight about your "fit" to him.

My "little" brother is 6'3" - his wife is 5'3" in 3 inch heels. Physically, he feels more "manly" and protective - that admirability thing - than he would around a taller woman. It's a powerful emotional need that a tall woman could never fill.

Either he was in a good mood anticipating getting his FIX today, or just being nice for a change.

LS: Hi! Happy NY!
WH: Happy NY.
LS: I have a favor. When you come by to drop the kids off, could you come in for a quick minute and undo that PUR filter on the sink? The water's coming out at a trickle and there's no way I can unscrew it.
WH: Sure, I can do that.
LS: I promise I won't hit on you...unless you want me to.
WH: ha ha ha (it was a sincere little laugh)
LS: Thanks.
WH: Okay, I'll come in then.
byes...

Good phone call. You are doing a great job with this.

I think you have planted lots and lots of seeds in his mind that SCREAM your name. I have a feeling he is doing lots of comparing. You are doing a perfect Plan and she is probably LBing like crazy because he is not giving her 100% of his attention.

Keep on keeping on <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

OMG!!

I think that there has been a MAJOR CRACK!!

IMO, he has made a MAJOR CHANGE!!

He LAUGHED in reaction to your flirtatiousnees...He did not have to do that.

He said YES in answer to your request to help him, previously saying NO about the water heater.

I betcha he opened that GIFT.

Time for an Academy Awards performance when he comes over.

Keep in mind...the drug she is offering is not at all about her APPEARANCE..height, weight, etc...

The needs that she is meeting are ADMIRATION, AFFECTION, RECREATIONAL COMPANIONSHIP..These are the NEEDS that you want to show your capacity to meet....

Lots of THANKS SO MUCH FOR HELPING ME..WE REALLY NEED YOU AROUND HERE TO HELP US AROUND THE HOUSE..TOUCH, TOUCH, TOUCH HIM...LOOK INTO HIS EYES..SMILE....SMELL GOOD...LOOK GOOD...

Eventually, I've been thinking, there will soon need to be a time for serious conversation with him about your desire to reconcile, to work on your marriage, etc. He may now know or understand that such RECOVERY is POSSIBLE. He may need such a ROAD MAP. I'm recalling how he asked his mother what you are doing. You may need to EXPLICITLY EXPLAIN this....although SIMPLY..to a FOGGY WH....

AND THIS..MAJOR..MAJOR...

"WH: Okay, I'll come in then."

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Went well. I was all nice smelling and au natural under my supersoft fleecy robe that I got for Christmas (not the same old one I always wore). It wasn't quite wrapped as tightly as it might be ordinarily.

He came in and went directly to the sink to fix it. I stood right next to him so that he could "show me how." After watching him, I told him that I would just call him to do it again next time. He gave a quick laugh and said yeah.

As he went to walk out the door, I gave him a nice hug and kiss on the neck, wishing him HNY again. He hugged me back, hopefully enjoying the feel of my nice fleecy robe. I thanked him for showing the boys a good time. The boys were yelling, "bye, love you!" and WH said, "see you tomorrow, boys!" I asked what his plan was for tomorrow and he said he didn't know, and asked if I had plans. Nope. I asked about going to the Gerald Ford stuff that's going on in town the next couple of days...if it might be something worth taking the kids to (historic moment in Grand Rapids and all...okay, so I just gave away where I live). He said not really, it's probably going to be a zoo.

I thanked him again and he left. I thought about flashing him, but it seemed to be a good interaction, and I was afraid the boys would see...so I decided against it.

Gotta go watch a show with the boys, DS8 seems especially needy this morning.

Did my best mimi...just read your post. Hope I laid it on thick enough.