Mimi's wearing her cowgirl boots today <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Okay, I don't mean to appear bloody obsessed with Sis's gift, but did he indeed open it? I must have missed that somewhere.

Oh, and good morning troops. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
Jo

I have not suggested that she hold back on change...merely, making sure that her message is suited for the audience that she is trying to communicate to (her WH). Her ability to maintain the changes.... if in fact they are all changes that she is happy with...is a seperate point... it is making sure that he is not so overwhelmed with the new Lilsis that he sincerely doubts her ability to maintain the changes.
As far as your question about the changes being good for her... that's not for me or for you to say... only Lilsis can make that call.
I can tell you as a man that there have been some things that might be a bit over the top if I were unsure about wanting to be sexual with someone. I say this without KNOWING her WH though...I merely offer something for consideration. Now, all of this is tempered by this being her WH. She should be able to be as sexual as she pleases... but again, if her goal is to entice him... she needs to use the right bait. Some fish bite on worms... others on corn meal. She needs to decide how to handle her H... as he is not the same as Mimi's, Pep's or anyone elses.

Jo, honey, send me your address, and I will send you a gift, smelling of perfume, wrapped in an naughty box.

Gee, thanks B.

In case it matters, I prefer La Perla "underbritches" (Mel's term) and I don't do perfume. Natural body soaps (fruits & flowers) work for me.

Happy New Year

Lv,
Jo

MEDC, JO:

All indications are that Sis' husband is responding to whatever she is doing.

He has definitely changed..eagerly coming into the house..HUGGING HER BACK.....MAJOR..MAJOR...

I think he must have opened the package..he didn't give it back....

So she needs to keep going forward UNTIL FURTHER NOTICE...

Definitely..she needs to keep doing what she is doing FOR HIM...to PLEASE HIM...

Pep:

Yes..it was a cowgirl kinda night...OH MY!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

BTW folks, yesterday was MY D-DAY ANNIVERSARY ...4 YEARS..I say MY because my H seems clueless and I'm certainly not going to remind him of that night!!!

ONWARD..MB SOLDIERS!!!

Mimi:

I agree with Sis's H's responses. I was simply inquiring on the status of the gift.

Carry on,
Jo

The gift is on the floor at FIL's house. That is all we know for sure.

Muchas gracias, B. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

B..is right about all we know for sure...

But..he didn't give it back as predicted by Sis...

And he has smiled in response to her comments about it...and he has HUGGED HER BACK..I can't get over this...

MY BET IS THAT IT'S NO LONGER ON THE FLOOR...

Well, an ARMY can HOPE can't it???


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Lead on general Mimi. HUP two three four.

Very very true. Understandably, I think Sis was feeling a bit down last night when she voiced that fear.

FEAR blows and can cripple us if we allow it to. We've all experienced it when in her situation. But Sis has done an outstanding job at keeping herself positive overall. A true MB notable Plan A inspiration.

It humbles me to see how courageous she's been.

Jo

ETA: Here's Star*Fishie's thread regarding "Fear" just for Sis: FEAR - Click Here

I DO agree with MEDC though. I think LilSis needs to do stuff with her boys and put WH on the back burner for awhile. Give soccersl*t time to LB.

I respect your opinion, B..but this would be a MAJOR, MAJOR MISTAKE for Sis.

This is EXACTLY what her H wants her to do....

Because..he is just now coming around and responding to her...and that would relieve him of his CONFUSION..he will say WHEW.."I WAS RIGHT ABOUT HER ALL ALONG"...

This would serve no purpose..will only feed into his perception of her as not caring about him...the only one that cares about him is RT...

although RT may LB..she is mostly FILLING HIS LB and FEEDING HIS ADDICTION..he sees her as PERFECT..regardless of what she does...that's the nature of his ADDICTION to her...

There is no part of the MB philosophy that recommends backing off during PLAN A....

She will have more than enough time to devote solely to her boys during PLAN B and she is certainly not neglecting them...

I don't understand your point, Believer... Sorry....

Sis' H's issues are his NEEDS for ADMIRATION and AFFECTION...

She has to take any and every opportunity to demonstrate her changes...

Men, like hers and mine, whether others like it or not, CRAVE ATTENTION AND AFFECTION..there is almost NEVER ENOUGH....The OW is giving that impression that she has a NEVERENDING SUPPLY THAT NEVER TURNS OFF..of course that is untrue and unhealthy but that is what Sis is up against..that is her FOE....

IMO, BACKING OFF..A MAJOR, MAJOR MISTAKE...for a man like hers...

She is not BEGGING AND PLEADING..which would be unattractive..she is doing PLAN A...

I'm with Mimi on this one- although I did not do Plan A since A was over, her WH sounds alot like my H. That need for attention and affection is STRONG- and they LOVE to be pursued.

Doing this is meeting those needs, stroking that ego, drawing him back.

For them it is not so much the thrill of the hunt, but the thrill of being hunted. FOW was very good at this. Now, I am the hunter <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

For the record... I am NOT suggesting she back off.... I am ONLY suggesting that some of the sexual stuff MAY be over the top and COULD BE a turn off to her H. I would not suggest though that she back off completely at this point. Just sit back and evealuate whether her actions COULD be having a negative impact on her WH. If not, as I said... she should proceed as she feels comfortable.
I am not as optimistic as Mimi about the actions of this WH to date. I don't see that much of a change... but that is just an opinion. I sincerely hope that I am wrong and he comes around very soon. i just get the impression from what I have read so far that this is another weak man that needs a kick in the [censored] to wake him up. But only Lilsis knows that for sure.
Just wanted to clear up where I satnd on things.

MEDC:

This is not at all meant to be a criticism of you...

It sounds like to me that you are more of a TOUGH guy...for which a kick in the pants does work...

Sis' H sounds like mine..more like a "Momma's" boy..sensitive and insecure..a kick in the pants from a woman..at the wrong time..sends them RUNNING FOR THE HILLS...well, running to an ADORING, DOTING WOMAN...

that's not my impression of him at all.... and most people that know me would NEVER describe me as a tough guy (heck, I spen the last week an emotional wreck over the death of a kitten I have had for one month!). I do agree that a kick in the pants at the WRONG time is a mistake.... just as being too soft at the wrong time is a mistake. There may be times when we happen to disagree when is the right/wrong time for certain actions... our goals are the same though.

MEDC:

I'm sorry that I may have formed the wrong impression of you.

You speak to me tough sometimes and I am sensitive..

I'm so sorry to hear about your kitten...