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I found out a few months ago my wife of 17 years has been having an affair off and on for three years. She had moved out prior to that claiming she needed her space, and yes that was a red flag for me. She moved back in but says she is still is in love with this man and claims she loves me but, is not in-love with me (bet you all have heard that one before). The man is married and his wife knows also. I believe she may have plans to move out again after Christmas as we argue all the time now. I am looking for advise on how to restore my marriage. Right now it seems pretty hopeless. She claims she is not talking to him or seeing him, but I strongly doubt that. One more thing that makes this whole thing a little messy is I found out she was pregnant and had an abortion. Is their any hope?
ME BH 42 - WW 41
1 kid 14 years old
DDAY April 13th 2006
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Post on the General Questions II forum, that gets about 10 times more traffic. Your wife is addicted to this OM. The only way that she can overcome this addiction is NC with the OM ever again. You need to read up on Plan A and start implementing it in the meantime. You also need to start snooping to verify NC is taking place. When you repost on the other forum include more background (kids, where did she meet OM, etc.). I strongly recommend talking with Steven Harley to formulate a plan. The first thing you need to do is try to keep her in the house. That means NO ARGUING! Angry outbursts are love busters, and her love bank is empty. Start meeting her needs and making some deposits not withdrawals.
Jim BS - 32 (me) FWW - 33 Married 8/31/03 No kids (but 3 cats) D-Days - 8/25/06 (EA), 11/3/06 (PA) NC agreed to - 11/8/06 NC broken - 11/28/06, 12/16/06, 1/18/07, 1/26/07, 1/27/07 Status - In Recovery Jim's Story
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