Hi all,

Today is my 7th wedding anniversary and it's my birthday in 3 days time. It used to be a week long celebration for us. My WH and I are heading fast towards a divorce. The OW has now moved in with him and he has been making attempts to have the children over at their place for weekends. Previously he had them two Saturday's a month. He did on one occassion take them with the OW on a four day holiday without my knowledge. I was out of town and he said he could look after them for that time.

I must say that I have not been very good at treating him kindly of late. I have no kind words for him and the hurt is just too much. I have probably LB'd my way to a divorce. Its just that the way he behaves really makes me mad. He comes to my home even when I'm not there or he comes over and justs hangs around. But if I even try to talk to him anywhere outside of the house he makes it sound like I am harrassing him.

I think its probably too late for a proper Plan B because I messed up the Plan A and so I am trying to prepare myself for a divorce. I think even if his affair ends our marriage is over. I know that I probably sound very defeatist but I don't see any light at he end of the tunnel anymore. My WH has become some kind of monster that I just can't recognise, definately not the man I married. He is mean, selfish and arrogant and I can't imagine that he will ever change.

Is there ever a time to just give in and let him have what he wants.

Lakeri

Me: BS - 33
WH: 37
married 7 years
together 13 years
3 children - 6,4 and 2
OW -35- WH's former assistant
Affair on for 2 years now.
Cohabiting 1 month