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I just dread the next couple of weeks - seeing couples shopping, eating out, having drinks, laughing, etc. etc.
Then there will be me who will be out with these couples and I'll be the "odd woman out".

I even dread Xmas Eve, Xmas and New Years Eve and Day. Everyone will be with someone and I won't. Yes, I still live with WH but we don't do anything together anymore.

I can't stand shopping in the men's dept. for my dad, BIL, or my newphew. I remember when I use to be so happy shopping for WH. Then there is the buying of cards, that's always a tearful time. I still have a husband legally, yet all the things I use to enjoy doing for/with him I won't be doing.

I hate holidays....and this is the 3rd Christmas that I've had like this one..I know only I can change it..Maybe 2007 will bring me Peace and Serenity..Let's hope so..

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Since I don't go out shopping, I don't see all those couples together.
I like decorating the house and having parties and going caroling.

I dread Christmas Day when it is just my girls and I and they miss the sense of family and don't appreciate any of the gifts they have gotten. (when they get gifts only from me, it doesn't look like alot). I keep reminding them, and myself, of the true gift of Christmas, Jesus's birth, and what is truly important.
Ban commercialism.

IH, perhaps you need to create new traditions for yourself. Do you attend church on Christmas Eve, or go caroling with others? These are simple things you can do to get in the holiday spirit. Perhaps you can volunteer at a homeless shelter, or a food bank (we did this before thanksgiving).

Change your way of thinking about the holidays and create the life you want. You can do it.


It was a marriage that never really started.
H: Conflict Avoider, NPD No communication skills (Confirmed by MC) Me: Enabler
Sep'd 12/01, D'd 08/03.
My joys and the light of my life: DD 11, DD 9
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YES!!! This is a bad year.

Recently separated, going through D. Immediate family 2,000 miles away, WW with B/F....Hate seeing couples, commercials, etc.

I usually love the holidays.....not this year. My IC is out of town and all my friends (married) have plans. This sucks!


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Divorced June 2007
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I'm in the same boat as are most of us on this board I guess. Christmas was VERY wierd and hard this year. I had my boys over the weekend and went to my parents. Its hard being alone after so many years and even harder knowing B/F has what you used to enjoy.

I'm glad its over, but being back to reality with everything that needs dealt with is hard too. I kept saying I'd deal with things after the holidays and here we are...


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