It seems to me that in an affair there is always a LOT of passionate kissing. But in a long term marriage such passionate *kissing* seems to fall sadly by the wayside, and a kiss or two is often all thats done. Why is this? do any long term married couples here actually sit and really just "neck" like in the good ole days? there is always a lot of discussion regarding sex in a marriage but what about kissing? is it just too "intimate" to "pash" for a long time with someone you have grown used to/has hurt you? I must admit Im jealous that the Ow and my H probably passionately kissed over and over...and felt comfortable just doing that.<BR>anyone understand?

Yes they do. As a matter of fact, my W and I indulge in such at least 3-4 times a week whenever possible. Makes for a better relationship overall.

How about THIS?<P>In my marriage, passionate kissing ALWAYS leads to sex .... which I resented.<P>In my affair, passionate kissing made me WANT it to lead to sex ....<P>I don't understand.

My W didn't have a problem making out on the couch with her OM. With me it's sex or nothing. She says that if she "makes out" with me it will lead to sex, so she doesn't do it. I kiss her many times throughout the day and night and soret of linger there hoping for a "deeper" kiss and never get it. I don't know why that is. I guess she feels like wanting a real kiss from her is pressuring her into sex.<BR>

My husband and I rarely JUST kiss! We used to be able to "make-out" for hours at a time. The passion definately is not there anymore...I don't know why, it was gone long before my affair.<P>I suppose this is normal and happens in most relationships...as sad as it is, I hope I'm right.<P>I miss passionate kisses. It's not like my husband wouldn't partake...it's my problem that I'm just not into it with him any longer. Maybe passionate kisses go along with the initial stages of a relationship...when you have that high in-love feeling.

about 3 yrs. ago my w pointed out that we no longer french kissed. i told her i felt too old to be doing that. we weren't having sex either. i've had an affair, it's over now and now we do french kiss. i had to kind of force myself to do it at first but now it's becoming more natureal. we both enjoy it and it's like a mini form of sex.

Ahhh, to me, kissing is what brings it into the next phase...sex. When I get more then a peck, it just makes me want more..<BR>It was always important to me, when I was dating, to find a guy who was a good kisser. If the kiss from the kisser is not a good kiss, then nothing is going to happen after that lousy kiss. I love kissing. I love to be in love. Unfortuently, I am missing the both of those things.

Ahhh, to me, kissing is what brings it into the next phase...sex. When I get more then a peck, it just makes me want more..<BR>It was always important to me, when I was dating, to find a guy who was a good kisser. If the kiss from the kisser is not a good kiss, then nothing is going to happen after that lousy kiss. I love kissing. I love to be in love. Unfortuently, I am missing the both of those things.

It's so simple.<P>Create the incredible urges you had in your teenage years.<P>It's more clinical than spontaneously romantic, but agree together before you start that you will not have sex, oral sex, nothing. Kiss, touch, the works. Don't remove any clothing.<P>After a few sessions like that over a few days, you'll both feel like teenagers again. Desperate to go all the way but you couldn't.<P>In the future, the husband will learn that doing this regularly will actually make his sex life torrid on those make out sessions when he does have sex.<P>

Cuckold is right...you gotta just work on it. Kissing returned to our marriage and I welcomed it whether it led to sex or not. I find it very intimate.<P>------------------<BR>Joan <P>"Turn your wounds into wisdom..." That really cool black gal who was on Oprah all summer.<BR>

I love kissing. I am now kissing husband more and more and craving the long intimate kisses. Sometimes he will participate and sometimes he really doesn't want to. If it is leading to sex and that is what he wants then okay. Sometimes I think that it makes him want sex and that won't fit in at the moment so he doesn't want to get wound up. Sometimes I think he is comparing it to how he felt when he was with OW. <P>Yes people in affairs kiss passionately a lot. All people who are in the process of falling in love or experimenting with the mating ritual do that.<P>In marriage we do seem to let it fall to the way side which is a huge mistake.<P>For me and my marriage I am trying to make it a big part of this new faze/start and intend on keeping it here. I don't know how much longer my husband and I have together on this earth but what ever is left I want to be the quality and quanity of everything good and wonderful. By the grace of God we will keep going forward and enjoy every minute.<P>------------------<BR>God bless you and all of us.<P>Samantha<BR>

AAAhhhh..... I could just kiss all day!!!!! Mind you, that doesn't mean I don't enjoy sex as well Just that there is something so, well, "spark inducing" about kissing !!!! Should be a big part of every marriage..... a bit like a promise of things to come ... (not necesarily at that moment, but a bit of an appetiser all the same). Now if only I could find someone willing to participate, as H has run away from home!!!