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#1792575 12/20/06 07:58 PM
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I'm having a very bad afternoon. Plan B is great as long as I don't have to know what it going on in WH's world. After weeks of nothing from my attorney, he finally updated me today. Basically, WH is unwilling to agree to the terms of my settlement which includes spousal support and a portion of his property. My formerly caring, loving and very generous H is now gripping his money so tightly without hesitating. He's completely forgotten about his loyal W and her needs. Like WH always said, he wanted this divorce to be "easy and painless." If I agree to WH's terms, then he is getting away everything. He chose to have this A, he chose to move, and he chose to file for D. I had no say in the matter of my marriage. I've had to suffer emotionally and financially because of his selfish decisions.

What do you think I should do? Should I be spending more money to pursue WH -or- should I let him go and continue in this fantasy world of his where everything he wants is given to him?

We have a court date in early January so my decision needs to be made very soon.

Sigh, life is so hard...especially during the holidays...

Thanks for your opinions. I am so confused and hurt by all this yuckiness in my life.


Looking forward to a new chapter since D was finalized on 4/24/07 from WH.

"I can do everything through Christ who gives me strength." Philippians 4:13
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fight for what you are entitled to!
do not let him walk away scott free.
there are consequences for his actions, why should he be able to get his way now?

i know it is expensive, but if you can do it FIGHT!
mlhb


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You were married 2 years - spousal support??? How long in your state would a judge grant you support for a 2 year M?

Rather than call it spousal support, could you try and get a lum sum as your settlement, some men just can't accept giving a monthly spousal support check. I know my WH says he will NEVER give me alimoney. And we have been married 12 years.

As for a portion of his property - what is fair?

Maybe your attorney just needs to reword what you are requesting so your WH accepts it easier.

And yes, it's amazing how they were so good to us until some bimbo comes along and brainwashes them into thinking we are nothing, and we deserve nothing. Yes, mine wants it painless too, but only painless for him. He doesn't want his lifestyle to change one bit, but expects me to live under a bridge. So he can have his fancy cars, vacations, endless spending money, etc. etc. I refuse to let that happen, if my lifestyle is gonna change, he can expect his to change too..

Just be sure that any money you are spending with your attorney to battle him, is worth it. A judge may not be willing to give you much based on the length of your marriage. Sad but possibly true..

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In many states, a 2 year marriage, particularly without kids as in a SAHM, would not warrant spousal support.
And any property which was acquired during the marriage would be in question, unless it was an inheritance and put in both names. If it was owned prior, than you may have no rights to it. If purchased during, then you would typically get 1/2 of the market value now vs. at purchase, less any loans.
Are your requests realistic?


It was a marriage that never really started.
H: Conflict Avoider, NPD No communication skills (Confirmed by MC) Me: Enabler
Sep'd 12/01, D'd 08/03.
My joys and the light of my life: DD 11, DD 9
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And how much is at stake? It's not worth spending $15,000 in legal fees to get $10,000. Questionable whether it's worth the battle to get $20,000 since you'll have to deal with this.

The court is unlikely to award you support and/or property as punitive damages. Maybe you should do a quick phone call to your lawyer and then to your STBX. Suggest you give up spousal support in order for your share of the property.


Divorced.
2 Girls
Remarried 10/11/08
Widowed 11/5/08
Remarrying 12/17/15

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