Hi everyone! I haven't been here in a while and I just wanted to post an update. If you don't know me or don't remember me, I'll post a link to my story at the bottom.

FWBF and I are doing great! Yes, he's earned his "F"! Things have never been better betwen us. As a matter of fact, we're getting married tomorrow. Finally, after 6 years! We've also discussed having more children in the not too distant future. I never could've imagined we could get here from the times after D-Day! Especially so quickly. I stopped coming to the MB site because I felt it was actually slowing down our recovery process. Only because I started spending so much time and effort here instead of with him. All of you MBers were so helpful and I have all of you to thank. Especially, LovingAnyway! I don't know if we could've done it without you. I know that if we hadn't learned about the MB prinicples, there's no telling where we'd be. We are just as in love as we were in the beginning. Inlike the "infatuation phase", this is REAL!

Things are never perfect and I certainly wouldn't expect them to be. I still think about his A all the time, but it doesn't bother me as much. It's only discussed when absolutely necessary, which is almost never. Many triggers have died down. Some still remain. I still stay away from the scene of the crime and I still check up on him when I feel suspicious. He knows, he understands. I don't know if recovery gets better than this, but if not, I can certainly handle what little remains of the A because what I get from him makes up for it.

I wouldn't wish infidelity on anyone. It's the worst betrayal from the person you least expect it from. I would say that I hope it never happens to me again but I am CONFIDENT that it won't. And the strangest thing of all is that I'm kind of glad it did. It turns out it was the best thing that ever happened to us. Neither of us knew what to do to turn our lives around and now we do. We live it every day.

It's been 221 days since D-Day, 148 days NC and counting. My biggest fear is running into OW somewhere but if I did, I would give her a great big "THANK YOU!" for seducing my man, helping to ruin my relationship and then turning her back on him so I could have him back to rebuild our relationship to the wonderful place it is today.

Thank you, Best Wishes and Happy Holidays MBers!

Hangnthere

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