Hi- I found out a month ago from OW's H that my WH is in a second long affair with a coworker.( his first afair was 5 yrs ago and we reconciled after that one finally ended.) I was so shocked that he would have ANOTHER affair that I immediately found a lawyer and had him served with divorce papers. I knew that OW had recently got an apt. right near our house so I told WH to just go right to her since he's so unhappy at home.( OW just got out of alcohol rehab. but has already started drinking again.She also a heavy smoker which my WH hates) He was reluctant to move in to her apt. but since my attorney filed paperwork saying the use of the house is for me and the kids only - he did move some of his stuff out. That was 2 wka ago- since they he calls and asks to come by most nights- he hangs around our house asking if he can eat dinner here and only leaves when our youngest is ready for bed. This wkend he's sleeping in one of our kids' rooms and doing all his usual Christmas prep stuff he has done for 20 years- he is even out buying Christmas presents for me right now- go figure! I asked him if he is planning to spend any time with OW this wkend and he said "no, I want to be with my family." Yet when I've hinted around about if he truly wants a divorce he seems like he does.Honestly it seems like he has a split personality here.He seems to be completely oblivious to my emotional pain- yesterday I nearly had a crying breakdown in Walmart while shopping with him for stocking stuffers.When he's around so much I keep having some hope that we can reconcile but when it comes to talking about that he completely avoids the topic. I'm very confused. Any thoughts from you wise ones?
me BS-age 44 STBX- age 48 M 20 yrs, 3 kids ages 10, 15, 20 H had intense EA/PA with single coworker D-day 2-14-01--Separated for 2 mo. H filed for divorce in April 01, then he cancelled it Second affair another affair with a married coworker- D-day 11-20-06 Filed for divorce right after second d-day
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