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My wife and I are having a difference of opinion on what constitutes and Emotional Affair (EA) and a Physical Affair (PA).
My stance - a PA requires actual physical contact between both parties.
Her stance - mastubation constitutes physical contact, therefore an on-line or phone sex session would be considered a (PA).
A good point, I thought, was "what about a One Night Stand (ONS) on the phone or Internet"? I figure an EN is being met, thus keeping it in the emotinal realm, even though there isn't any sort of emotional intimacy. She indicated a lack of emotional involvement, thus making it physical.
I intend to either adjust, or leave my sig as-is, based on input.
I've looked for love, acceptance, and appreciation from others. It doesn't work very well.
I've found it all inside me. The challenge is in investigating the truth of the thoughts I have that get in the way.
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A physical affair refers to actual physical contact between 2 parties.
But instead of wasting time quibbling over definitions, why not just agree that it is destructive behavior that harms the marriage? You can call it a baloney sandwich or a cow pattie if you want, it is still destructive to the marriage and needs to stop.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I agree. Thanks for your input.
I've looked for love, acceptance, and appreciation from others. It doesn't work very well.
I've found it all inside me. The challenge is in investigating the truth of the thoughts I have that get in the way.
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An internet affair is a HUGE danger to a marriage, and they are becoming more and more common. With phone/cybersex introduced, it can be awful for the betrayed spouse. The only difference to me between a PA and cybersex is that the betrayed spouse is protected from STD's.
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