Well I don't know what is going on with my network but the text message I sent came back Undeliverable. I have tried it a couple time and even went to Verizon web site and tried. So the network must have issues. That is OK I will send it Or I will hand it to her when I drop md D off today.

Must be her phone. I sent it to myself and everything worked fine. She may have her phone cut off

Are you ready for your first plan of attack today?

Are you going to look your best?

Strong and sexy?

Are you going to smell great???

Do you have some where to go once you drop off your DD?

Are you feeling upbeat?

Ready to show yourself friendly no matter what falls out of her mouth?


~ Marsh

PS: Don't worry about not being able to send her the text message yet. You've got time.

Yes


Yes because I think I am going to go see We are Marshall afterward


As best I can. I may even work out b4 I go that way I will be pumped.

Axe body spray. It says you have to fight the women off. Although I am only interested in one


Movies I think unless something else pops up


I will be


Prepared by the best online freinds a guy could ask for. Plus The Lord gives me Joy in my trials



No worries. I may just print it out and hand it to her.Is this a good idea.

Sounds like you're ready. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Just a couple of things...



It's been recommended around here that you get yourself a NEW cologne when you're working a Plan A.

Something your WW has never smelled on you before.

Go ahead and wear your Axe today, but go shopping at a department store for a NEW fragrance.

Give yourself permission to spend some $$$ on a nice one.

YOU deserve it.



Remember, "ALL things work together for good to those who love Him."



Hmmm, I don't know.

Maybe you should write out your message on a piece of paper in your own handwriting. (It's more personal)

Bring it w/ you.

Ask her about her phone and see when she thinks she'll have it turned back on.

If it's going to take longer than a day or two, go ahead and give her your note.

Don't stick around to get a reaction when she reads it.

Remember, you are a busy guy. You have places to go. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Enjoy the movie!

~ Marsh

Axe is new for me. I normally wore Curve.

pHB-

Just my .02 about trying a new cologne. I wouldn't encourage a man to wear Axe or Tag as it is kind of the "Old Spice" of the middle school/high school set-IMHO. It's not quite as unique as other fragrances that are out there due to its popularity (and there is something to be said for applying it sparingly, something most junior/senior high boys don't quite understand...)

When my two boys started wearing it, I got them real cologne. DKNY be delicious for DS14 (subtle) and Aqua DiGio for DS18. Both very pleasing.

Two of the best men's fragrances out there are Armani Black Code and Polo Double Black-both amazing. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
My DD24 put some samples in her brother 18 and BIL's stockings so I've had the pleasure of smelling both.

You can get samples to see how they work with your skin chemistry from any good department store like Macys.

Good luck!

OK that didn't go as planned. I went to drop D off and WW is not home. I call and she is in another town with a "friend". I didn't talk to her much except to tell her I would just keep D tonight and bring her by b4 work in the morning. WW said no I will pick her up later tonight and I told her I had plans to go out with some friends of mine. She said well take D to her aunts house and she would pick her up there. D said NO and got the phone and told her she didn't want to go to Aunts and she didn't want her to pick her up. I somehow always get caught in the middle. Now I can't go no where and WW is going to blame me for putting that stuff in her head. I have not talked about it this weekend and D just is tried of her mom putting her after OM. Whats a guy to do????? Need suggestions and probably need them quickly.

I have a right mind to call her family and let them know what she has done now. But that probably wouldn't be the best thing.

Why not?

Why not call them. Because it usaully backs fires on me and gives my WW more ammo.

How so? Have you exposed A?

Is she with OM?

Yes the A is fully exposed. And I assume she is with him.

Be sure to document this. You should have a notebook where you write the time and date that things like this take place.



You need to decide what's in the best interest of your DD.

Tell her you'll drop her off in the AM and that's that.

Sorry about your evening.

But, imagine how badly your DD feels tonight.

Spend the evening poring all your love on her.

~ Marsh

Also, you need to tell your DD that her mother and you will decide what's in her best interest, not her.

She needs to know that you are in control of situations like this so that she doesn't feel she has to get involved. The burden is far to great for her to bear.

~ Marsh

In that case I would tend to agree with not informing. Not sure that saying anything to ILs now would do much except inflame things and probably would be seen as being vindictive and controlling. Remember you cannot control her only try to help her see what it is she is doing to your M.

I however think you could let her know that you know and that it hurts you that this is how she is treating you her daughter and her responsibilities to you both.

Are they, the ILs, being supportive to you and your M?

paranoidHB,

Trust me, you'll start feeling a lot better once you stand up for yourself and start enforcing your boundaries. This includes an alien of affection lawsuit on the OM, protecting your finances and cutting off WW, getting a LS that grants you PRIMARY custody of your daughter including child support payments from HER to YOU, and letting your WW know that you are standing up for your family. She will fight, kick, and scream, but eventually she will start to crack. Take comfort in watching the affair crumble because of the actions YOU are actively taking to save your M. You will get through this.

I have been keeping notes since day 1


That is what I will do. This OM is distroying our whole family.

That doesn't effect her at all.


Yes