I think I am going to retire for the night but I will check in in the morning.Thanks for settling me down.

Oh, ok, Are you going to see about getting something in writing about keeping OM away from DD?

I know it totally sucks that you have to go meet w/ a DL, but you need to protect your family and your assets.

Yeah, it's 10:20 here too. That's pretty late for an eight year old to be up on a school night, huh?

Where do you think they are?

~ Marsh

k. laters.

~ Marsh

Definatly



They just called me. They were down at her Aunts. WW probably dropped them off down there to see OM then went back to pick them up. I don't know I am just speculating. While I was talking to D, I asked if her mommy is ok. She said I guess. So i don't know but I have a good feeling she dropped them off left and then came back for them.

You REALLY need to be documenting this stuff.

How often is she dropping the kids off?

Please start calling your DD every night.

~ Marsh

I am documenting everything. I don't know everything but I think she drops them off about every night. I do try to call at least twice a day. Once when I get off of work and then b4 bed time.

Oh OK, good!

Night.

~ Marsh

Turns out my wife doesn't mind if I'm on here. I had not told her of this place because it was mine and my help, not hers. I may ask her if she want to come here and post sometime. Don't know though, I still feel like it is MY place for advise. I'll think about it.

pHB,

Let us know how the meeting went.

Oh, I understand.

I figured it was something like this.

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~ Marsh

Yeah I was kidding to M2L

I will post later tonight. I am going to be busy this afternoon so it may be after 10 before I post an update on the meeting.

I am taking a notepad with me so I can make sure I have everything correct.

Plus I plan on making the snack drop off after the meeting. Hope things go better today.

OK I am home and will be posting my report. Just give me a few minutes to type it up and change clothes.

Ok so I met with my lawyer about the Separarion agreement and property assessment. I had prayed all day long for the Lord to give me an out to signing this. My Lord answered my prayers when my lawyer informed me that I didn't have to sign anything I didn't want to sign. If I wanted to continue to try to reconcile then not to sign and she would send a letter to WW's lawyer informing him of the happenings on 12/20(when she came to me for comfort) and the things that were said that night and the I wasn't ready to give up hope in reconciling. And there isn't anything she could do about it until the 1 year date. I told her about D being around OM and she said that we could send out a letter to him and his lawyer telling him to "back off because WW has stated she wanted to reconcile w/me as late as 12/20. He is breaking a state law by being with her and if he didn't back off he would be charged with AOA and CC for damages to marriage, home and kids. Emotional problems for WW, H and D and many more taht I will not type up here. That I have significant evidence to support this claim and if he didn't back off that he would be charged with these to the fullest extent. To stay away from D or he would be charged with the same things for her because he has broken her family and caused emotional problems that will take years to correct."

Alot I am leaving out but I will answer questions tonight. I just wanted to give a short summary.

I will type my meeting with WW after I post this.

Sounds like your lawyers visit went VERY well.

You must be extremely pleased.

I'm sure there will be some serious LBing going on between your WW and OM when he gets that letter from your lawyer!!!

Great job, PHB!!!

Must feel good to protect your DD and M, huh?

~ Marsh

I had the meeting scheduled for 4PM and I didn't get off of work until 3:30. I rushed home because I didn't want to be late and was just going to change clothes, gather my clothes for the gym and take off. I had planned on dropping by WW house after the gym so I could shower and get fixed up at the gym. I got home and and i thought to myself that I needed a shower. I talked myself out of it and proceded to get dressed, then thought about it again and decided to shower. Got dressed up fixed my hair put on smell good and then left. After the meeting I went by Wal-mart to pick up some things and locked my keys in the truck because I was talking on the phone and my cousin was standing one row over hollering at me. I called WW and she answered and I told her what I had done and asked her to bring the spare key. She said she would be there within 10 minutes. God knew this was going to happen and convinced me to shower and put on nice clothes other wise I would have had on shorts and a sweatshirt ready to go to the gym. (Answered Prayer) She got there and proceded to take my key off of her key chain and asked for her key. I said I didn't want to do that because of situations like these. She said No I don't want you going through my car anymore. I said OK and went unlocked my door and got my keys and the bag of goodies. I walked back to her and give her her key and handed her the bag. She said what is this? I said I stopped by the grocery a while ago and I picked up one D some cotton candy and the other some Goldfish crackers and I got her one of her favorite sweets. (she loves sweets) Ahe said Why did you do this and I answered I was thinking about you and them. She said well ok. I gave her the letter and she put it down and I asked her to read it. She said she would later cause she needed to go. Instead of insisting, I said OK and smiled at her and said I got to run in here because I have to meet some friends in about 20 minutes and I said Thank you for bringing my keys and I see you later. She looked at me and OK bye. That was it. I called her a few times tonight and she hasn't answered yet. But D is spending the night with her Grandma. Guess WW had other plans. I have recorded that to. But I feel real good about todays events and Thankful God had me prepared to see her before I planned on seeing her. She looked unhappy and sad and then puzzled about how I was acting. any comments?

Yes I feel great about it. My lawyer told me that his lawyer would down play it as a scare tactic but I insisted I was serious and she said well lets put it to them good. She is going to Email me the letter before she sends it out tomorrow so I could look at it and make suggestions if I felt it wasn't direct enough, then she said I will make sure my assistant is upset before she wirtes it, so I am sure it will be to your liking. I may post it on here.It feels great knowing that the Lord is watching over me and putting the ball in my court. My Lawyer said we would do this for about a month to see if we scare him off, if not we will file and punish him. I like that part.

She said this may do it, it may not, but either way OM will have to think about it and all he may have to pay out. This is what he pays right now: 3 child supports, Alimony, and he is paying his W house payment and supporting my W right now because she don't have alot and he has been buying her stuff to go in her house. A wrap around couch, washer and dryer is what I know of. So this may knock some sense into him about what he will have to pay out he if continues with this A.

And Yes it felt great protecting my D and myself.

I LOVE IT! I LOVE IT! I LOVE IT!!!

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YOU DID GREAT!!!

I can imagine how stunned she must have been when you handed her that bag!!!

I can't believe how that all worked out so perfectly!!

~ Marsh

Thanks I am working very hard on this.


Do you think I said to much or not enough or was it just right?


Yes she looked as if she couldn't figure out why I did this. It was great LOL I felt so good after that.


God was watching out for me. Ain't it amazing how he works. I wasn't even expecting for it to turn out like that but he knew I would lock my keys in my truck and I needed to look my best.

Unbelievable. My WW just dropped by here to ask if she could get some clothes for D. I had just changed clothes and had my sweatpants on and torn shirt. I said sure she can have pants. I gave them to her and she said she was going to pick D up and take her home. I said OK I thought she was staying with GM and she said no she was going to get her. 11PM what a life my D is having. But I didn't say anything I just was pleasant and smiling and asked if other D was in car. She was and I said let me get my shoes and talk to her. W said she was asleep and I said ok. She went to her car and I stayed at the door and said Bye. She said bye and pulled off.

The reason I post this is because normally WW would not stop and ask for anything. Was she checking to see if I was still being nice or was she just desperate or what. I can't figure this one out and not even going to try. But I know you experienced folks will be able to deciper this.

You did everything EXACTLY right!!!

I loved that you told her you'd like for her to keep your key. And I REALLY loved it that you didn't react negatively when she said she wanted hers back.

AWESOME JOB!!!

I bet your new confident upbeat attitude will leave her scratching her head all evening!!!

LOL

It's amazing how God prepared you for battle, and then even brought the battle right to you!!!

~ Marsh