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And should I answer the phone if she calls Do you have your DD? I have my 8 yr old
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And should I answer the phone if she calls Do you have your DD? I have my 8 yr old OK, good. What I meant was there was a reason she didn't want to stay w/ her mother. Did they have a fight? What happened? ~ Marsh
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You have some work to do w/ DD (darling daughter).
Can you think of a project the two of you could work on together to give to your WW to help restore some of their relationship? And to show your WW that you are doing things differently?
Can you make something for her together?
Or go and pick something out together to give her?
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And should I answer the phone if she calls Do you have your DD? I have my 8 yr old OK, good. What I meant was there was a reason she didn't want to stay w/ her mother. Did they have a fight? What happened? ~ Marsh I am asking right now, she is in her room playing. She said no. She said nothing happened. I asked her if M wanted to do something or said something that she heard that made her act like this. She said no. I asked why then do you not want to be with her. She said because she is doing the wrong thing. Thats it. I think she would tell me if some thing happened.
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You have some work to do w/ DD (darling daughter). Thanks for the info on the other D Can you think of a project the two of you could work on together to give to your WW to help restore some of their relationship? And to show your WW that you are doing things differently?
Can you make something for her together?
Or go and pick something out together to give her?
~ Marsh I will think about this.
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Eight year olds are motor mouths, and talk about everything. I would suggest you do something really fun as often as possible, and let DD8 "share" those fun times with M.
It will make her M wonder what she's missing every day she's not with her daughter.
Just a thought...
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I need to pick up one of my kids so I'll be gone, but Marsh is giving better advise right now anyway.
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Should I text W to let her know anything. I just kinda hung up without saying much.
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Teach her to do something her M loves to do, or if she already knows how, do it with her as often as possible... rollerblading, skating rinks, ice skating, whatever. If it's a passion of her M, she'll long to be a part of it.
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[quote]And should I answer the phone if she calls Do you have your DD? I have my 8 yr old OK, good. What I meant was there was a reason she didn't want to stay w/ her mother. Did they have a fight? What happened? ~ Marsh I am asking right now, she is in her room playing. She said no. She said nothing happened. I asked her if M wanted to do something or said something that she heard that made her act like this. She said no. I asked why then do you not want to be with her. She said because she is doing the wrong thing. Thats it. I think she would tell me if some thing happened. [/quote] Who is M? The OM? Was he over there? She doesn't want to be around him? Is that it? He's w/ your WW right now? ~ Marsh
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Oh, M is mother.
Duh?
Why would she behave this way tonight towards her mother and not other nights?
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I need to pick up one of my kids so I'll be gone, but Marsh is giving better advise right now anyway. I Am going to go in a few minutes too.
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Teach her to do something her M loves to do, or if she already knows how, do it with her as often as possible... rollerblading, skating rinks, ice skating, whatever. If it's a passion of her M, she'll long to be a part of it. Good idea
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sorry to be a bother...Seacrest...OUT no bother Just talking to DD
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Why would she behave this way tonight towards her mother and not other nights? Don't know why? All I know is that \this is harder than I thought
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Why would she behave this way tonight towards her mother and not other nights? Don't know why? All I know is that \this is harder than I thought I know it. That's why it's called a rollercoaster ride. Look at your plan as the seat belt that keeps you from flying out of it. You're gonna make. You need to try to help your DD respect her mother. Yes, her mother is sinning. Yes, she can be angry about that. But, she needs to learn not to act out b/c she's angry. She DOES need to love her mother. Try to help her separate her mother's behavior from her mother. Like you are learning to do. Your WW will notice the positive change in your DD and will know YOU helped to create them. ~ Marsh
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[qoute]Your WW will notice the positive change in your DD and will know YOU helped to create them.[/qoute]
Boy i hope so. If anyone has any suggestions on how to help my DD let me know.
Shattered- I hope you didn't think I was ignoring your post. I can use all the Friends i can get right now to help encourage me. Thanks for the suggestions. One of them just may be a hit. My WW loves to do it, but I don't. Maybe you hit on something there.
Marsh I think the biggest thing right now is that DD don't understand. I am trying everything I can to work on M and her mom isn't. Its got to be confusing.
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HB... no problem... I misread M2l's post and thought YOU said Marsh was giving better advice than me, so I popped off a snide exit line...then realized I'd screwed up. Long day at work, and a not-so-well-thought-out response. My bad!
As my son always says... It's all good!
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Still love ya SD!!! you give good advise also.
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