Here a list of things DD told me:
-She has emails from him and pictures of him at work

-She was wanting DD to go and eat with OM,DD didn't want to,WW started screaming at DD and asked if anyone there had a belt, DD asked if anyone had Bible. My reply was she shouldn't be whipping you because of that but you do need to respect and honor her just like we talked about this past weekend.DD said then she whipped her. I said are you sure? You ain't lying? DD said NO. I said you better not be lying? then DD said she whipped her at home.

I'l finish in another post.

This is bad.

I think you should call your attorney and ask his/her advice.

Can you ask for an emergency custody hearing?

~ Marsh

DD cont.

-WW told DD that she has to respect him.DD said no I don't because he is not part of My family or hers

-WW told DD that OM's D wanted to came play with DD anytime and didn't have a problem with this. DD said That is not true because I stayed with her this weekend and I know she don't like it because we talked about it.

-DD said she prays during moment of silence at school

Contact your lawyer immediately about this.

WOW...Your WW is DEEP in the fog. She is about to lose everything. I can't imaging a judge ever granting her custody after that. Contact your lawyer ASAP so you can protect your DD from this abuse. Don't start LBing your WW, let your lawyer take care of this.

I'm not experienced at all in these matters.

Perhaps you'll need pictures if you can get them carefully without traumatizing your DD (I don't think you should take them with any indication you are going to "use" them against her mother).

Anything you say or do to daughter your wife's attorney is going to twist and try to turn this all back on YOU involving your daughter in your vindictive attempt to villify her in your daughter's eyes. Especially, if corporal punishment is the occassional norm in your household.

It may be outrageous...but if you spank too...hmmmmm.

Speak to your attorney about it...I don't think this should necessarily be spoken about much on here. Your words here on this issue, if discovered, could come back to bite you.

Again...I know where your heart is and that the best interests of your daughter is foremost in your mind. Her attorney can only twist the words to make an appearance it is otherwise. Why give him/her ammunition.

Mr. Wondering

taking off my MB hat....

SCREW Plan A at this point

get this situation under control immediately

call your attorney
take DD to the closest emergency room
tell them you suspect child abuse
have HER tell her story to an MD
they will call child protective services

this is serious
grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

Pep <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

if you delay it makes YOU look like the bad guy

do it today

WW needs to be accountable for her actions

DD needs to know with 100% certainty that you will protect her

Pep

everyone after computer problems and retalking it over with DD, DD was stretching the truth. I simply asked her again to repeat what happened. She told me a little different story. I asked again and told her i needed to make sure I was getting everything right and I was writing it down each time. Then she said her mom only threatened to spank her. WW called me and I asked her about it and she said it was not true about the spankings but he was there and I have that recorded. I will be back shortly, I have to take DD some clothes, she is with GM. Sorry I got everyone riled up but I was pretty ticked about that, LB or not. Be back soon.

I'm relieved it's not true.

I still believe you ought to get a court order to keep OM away from DD.

She shouldn't be put in the position she is.

~ Marsh

I agree what that. I was hoping the papers I served would scare OM but I guess not. This happened on Tuesday and his W called me on WED. So maybe he didn't get it until then and we will have to wait and see.

Is anyone else having trouble with this forum. I have been having troubles getting into the forum.

Please don't count on his staying away from your family.

Get the court to draw up papers keeping him away from DD.

And yes, the site has been having problems all evening.

~ Marsh

I am calling Lawyer tomorrow.

This site is driving me crazy tonight.

I am going to snoop

I was going snooping last night but when I laid down it was like all the energy was removed from my body. I know the Lord saw my body and knew I needed to rest. I slept through 3 different alarms clocks and was almost late for work spo i didn't get anthing last night.

pHb,

how often does your ww contact you? Does she call or stop by?

What EN do you think you are meeting of hers?

Very rarely contacts me. I am not sure I have filled any of her EN. Her heart is hardened.

I called lawyer this morning but no one has called me back.

I also set up my appt with SH today. I will be talking to him next week.

I am really confused today over what to do next. I will talk about it more when I get off work. Any suggestions will help though.

Review your thread and make notes so you can relay the high points to Steve Harley. He is said to be very insightful into peoples situations. Make sure you give him the very best picture of your situation that you can.

In the mean time, just relax, take a short break from all the chaos and emotion, so you'll be physically and mentally prepared to go with Steve's suggestions. That's my 2 cents worth!

SD

I don't know how much more I can take. I know I love my W. I know I want my marriage to work. But the thoughts that all of this brings, drives me crazy.

I don't know if I have said this before but it is what is killing me inside. My W and I was virgins when we met in high school. She is all I have ever known and want to know, I WAS all she knew and now that bond is broken and will never be the same.

How long have you been in plan A. I think you need to stay in plan A at least a month or two after the AOA is filed. I know it is difficult, but just keep the objective in mind. You'll get through this one way or the other.