I can't tell she's flipping out. She seems to be content on sticking to her guns.

As for 2nd OM I don't know anything about him.

I am getting all the bills together for separation. I talk with lawyer tomorrow. I hope she files soon afterward.

Well Lawyer told me that we couldn't move the date up because it would be fraud and she could lose her license. So I am back to square one. I have to put up with this stuff for another 6 or 7 months. I am ready to move on. It is now becoming real hard to keep my eyes focused now that I have made this decision. I don't want to start a relationship until I am legal to do so. Whats a fellow to do?

pHB,

I don't have an answer, but I wanted to let you know that I heard you.

Check that - A lot can happen in 6-7 months good and bad.

Not too much of an answer I guess.

Did you give DD a V Day gift???

Yes I gave her a V day gift. She is staying with me tonight because WW has plans. Wish I didn't have a conscience.

Will she have her cell phone on?

"WW, does DD have ____ or should I get one for her?"

Make something up just to call. What the he))????

I took DD to a counsuler yesterday and she told him some of the things that upset her. This may help in custody battle. Plus maybe WW mill ask how it went and DD will tell her what she said and WW may then get worried about that and stop bringing and forcing OM on DD. The counsuler told me that he could tell she was disturbed by this and did not want to be around OM.

I talked with lawyer and she is going to file for me today of tomorrow that OM can not be around DD after bedtime. He would have to leave at or before bedtime. I guess since now that I have to wait until Aug to file for D I can go ahead with AOA. I am just ready to get this all behind me. It really didn't help last night when DD said her prayers and she prayed for WW to come home and put her family back together. Maybe that is GOd's way of talking to me.

Also made sure WW knew I was taking DD to a counsuler before I took her. That way any plans she had she would have to think about that. WW was not happy that I was taking her but I don't care. The aunt called last night and DD told her about what happened and then aunt must have called WW because WW texted me to "GROW UP" I replied back with a ?. So I think I may have gotten under her skin a little.

She is the one that needs to grow up and face her mistakes not me. I am doing things to help DD not put her in sitch's that upset her.

To he{{ with what WW thinks.....It always amazes me how they act like teenagers when confronted with truth (such as you DD needing counseling due to their actions).

File the AOA on that idiot, get a judgement against him and he won't be able to finance a '77 Volkswagon Beetle in the future. IT's the principle if nothing else. Third party's should be responsible for breaking a marriage contract just like the WS should be in the divorce proceedings although not always the case.

WW is really peed off now. She says the reason DD is sick today is because I took her to a counselor, I talk with her and pretty much I am a dead bead dad. She is so mad she can't even speak clearly. She said all of this you doing ain't gonna bring me home. I said I don't want you come home, I want what is best for DD. WW said she asked DD if it was OM that was bothering her or was it the fact her parents wasn't living together. DD said parents not being together. That to me wasn't a fair question to ask. Maybe I should have consulted WW before I set up the appt but WW didn't ask me when WW asked the school counsulor to talk with DD.

This is turning into a big mess and I am tired of it. any suggestions or thoughts that may help me out

Doesn't sound like a mess to me.

It sounds as though you handled it very well.

If your WW is angry, too bad so sad.

YOU did the right thing.

Why can't your attorney file, asking that OM has NO contact w/ DD?

Also, you'd better start thinking about not getting involved w/ another woman for a while AFTER your D is finalized. You're going to need time to heal before you jump back into another relationship.

Patience.

~ Marsh

I Don't know if I handled things well or not. You seem to be the only one that has told me that. I took her blasting me today and swept it off. But WW really is upset with me. I haven't talked with DD yet but I plan on doing so after while. I wondered if DD told WW something she didn't want to hear and now she is trying to turn the blame on me. Oh well I've been blamed for everything else.

I am not getting involved with any girl right now. My focus is on my DD. I will admit to talking with one a few weeks ago but that was as far as it went. We both decided that we would wait and see what happens and for me to concentrate on my DD. But as for me I can't AFFORD to get involved right now.

Well its Friday night and I am gong honky-tonking again. Hope I don't end up like last week. LOL

Anyway update from the homefront is WW is still pi$$ed at me but it really doesn't bother me. I know what I am doing is right and she is just trying to turn the tides to make me look bad. I am the only one who can make me look bad and if I must say I am looking pretty good these days.LOL That is what I am being told anyway. Have a good night everyone.

Have fun PHB but know where to draw the line and do not cross it.

pHB,

you up yet? How did it go lastnight? Good boy?

Yes I was a good boy. Had some fun, danced and then hit the Waffle House. Don't even have a headache this morning.

I'm not posting too much these days, but just wanted you to know I'm still thinking of you, and pulling for YOUR success first, and then for your marriage. You deserve only the best in the future. Go and get it!

SD

Thanks SD I hope to continue to grow and be happy. I know for a fact WW isn't happy she is just running. I had papers served to her this week on separation agreement but haven't heard a word from her about it. She went out of town again this weekend again with OM. But I really don't care anymore. I just hate to see her ruining herself.

As for me I told everyone earlier this week about a girl I had met and talked to. Thought I would tell the whole story so everyone will not think bad about me.

It is the girl on the bike I reffed to about 3 weeks ago. I finally talked to her on 2/2 and asked her out. She accepted. We then talked again on 2/3 for about an hour about different things and our interest. Then we talked on 2/5 and I told her about my sitch and she told me she didn't want to be the woman in the middle, and while she was interested in me, she wanted to wait until my sitch was over. I told her I respected that and asked her if she was willing to wait? She said she was not interested in anyone else and she would wait and that we should become friends and pray about our relationship in the meantime just to see where God is leading us. She said if we start seeing each other and then something happens and WW wanted to work things out, she didn't want to be the reason I would not be willing to work on the marriage. I totally respected her decision and told her that I would pray, although I don't know if that is what God intends on me doing, I would pray and see where he leads us. We ended that conversation that night and moved forward. I talked with her on 2/7 for about 1 minute and told her that i would not be ignoring her over the next few weeks but I really needed to focus on what I needed to do with my DD. She said that would be fine because she knew if we became close friends where it would lead. That was the last time I talked with her.

Funny thing is God has allowed me to focus on what I needed to focus on instead of her. I felt my focus drifting when I was talking with her and falling into the same trap the WW fell in to. I really feel that God has released me from my WW to focus on DD. I think he allowed me to see what it would be like to fall so easily and lose focus on what really mattered at this time. I may be wrong here but I think he allowed me to meet this one girl for that reason and have her back off so I would see that I needed to back off until my sitch is truly over in his eyes. He is preparing me and this girl for our future if there is one. Just have to wait and see and trust in him.

I know I should have not have talked to her in the first place but can anyone see God in this besides me?

I guess no one really wants to comment on that.

You need to decide if God would be comfortable with you getting cozy with another woman before the details of your marriage are worked out. I'm not sure what you are asking, but you are treading on a bit of a slippery slope, and any continued contact with this woman before your marriage is fully disolved would be an EA.

That's not what you need in your life right now, for sure...

SD

I totally agree with you. That is why I haven't talked with her in a couple weeks. But I feel that the marriage is now fully disolved. Today is WW Bday and she has been out of town all weekend with OM. There has been so many things that I have found out about, I know I could forgive but I never forget those things. Our separation agreement should be signed this week hopefully and after that who knows.