Well I am new here and I need some advice, I have no one really to talk to. Here goes,, my best girl friend named K, moved in with me and my husband, recently moved to town and needed help with living arrangements so she could look for a place to live. OK. 6 months down the road she is still with us, she helps with my son and some of the house work, takes care of her room upstairs. Well, my husband got into alot of online activities, chatting aol, yahoo and twice the swingers web page and he became a memeber 2 times that i know of. He was big into swing, mostly the bi-female thing and wanted to see me with a girl and guys/couples. I found this to be not normal as I was not brought up to think this way. Well since my girlfriend was living with us, he made moves, said things to her and she finally had enough and told me what all he had said and done, she had nothing to lose, he already had got mad at her and kicked her out, which i found out these things beforehand and did not tell him i knew. She SWEARS to me he did and said these things to her, of course he DENIES it. and blows up that i would believe her over him. He has lied to me before and came clean on some issues. dealing with sex of course issues before we were married. but lied when i confronted him. so he denies the comments made by my girlfriend, and then he came up with a sexual thing he said that she and him did, and she said he is lying again to make her look bad. she swore on her childrens life he is lying again, and he goes further and said yes and he felt like crap later, and he would of never told me had she not told off on him. I still think he is lying to cover all the wrong he did that he wont admit to and made up this story. He said he is going to find a way to prove she did the act and she is lying. My god, I am in the middle here, and after knowing my husbands ways (at least i think) I believe her over him. Should i get these 2 together and confront them in the same room.??? HELP... do i continue my marriage of only 2 years with a man I think is a habitual liar? go with my gut feeling? He says i am his wife and i should stand behind him and believe him over a friend. LOL, i have been married 2 times and Yes i lied to both on some occasion, it is done. hello. Advice what should I do? My feelings towards my husband are not the same I cant give my whole heart to him, is that fair? Have I rambled on?? lol
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To answer your question I would certainly believe your girlfriend. Your husband has a history of lying to you, signing up for swingers online, trying to get you into a threesome etc.. I think you are in big denial. This man is a total jerk and will jerk you around until you finally throw him out. Would you really want him to be the father of your child or any child? I would contact an attorney and file for divorce. The writing is clearly on the wall that he will destroy you if you stay with him. This is really a no brainer.

It is often a huge mistake to take in a friend. We have many posters here whose spouse cheated with a friend in the home. But usually the "friend" does not let the betrayed spouse know what is going on.

Believe your friend, as she was a true friend.

She sticks by her story and swears on her childrens life. but in turn my husand swore on mine and my sons life the is telling the truth.....does a bible not serve any purpose anymore? She stands by her word. He in turns says she is a liar and a homewrecker does anything to cut her down to me. to justify himself? He says she is doing this to US, and I think NO HE DID THIS TO US.......he has yet to say to me would you forgive me, all is I cant blame u if U leave me. Can I really trust this man? I love him but is Love blind to me? He even said he hates her so much he could just kill her. is this a christian man? He has now said he has changed his ways and wants more in the church and family life now.......for how long?..........

Betrayers OFTEN swear on the Bible and their children's lives. Very sad.

However, you friend has not betrayed you. She is most likely (99.9999% probability) telling you the truth.

Why don't you copy and post your first thread on General Questions II, and see what folks think? My bet is that most will trust your friend.

okay thanks i will do that !!! so glad i found this site.. thank you thank you...