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1st post. I have been coaching for 12 yrs and it's taken a major toll on my marriage. We've talked for years about the pain of me being gone. I have finally realized the pain I have caused by my absence. I have decided that this is my last season. Yet, my wife is to the point where it may be too late. Advice?[color:"red"] [/color]
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Sorry, when I first pulled up your post it was blank! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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Tried to put it in color, oops!
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More info. We are in our early thirties, been married for 13 yrs, together 18. Have to kids, house, etc. We have always been close friends but she now feels that being "in-love" will never happen again, and feels that I may resent her down the road for quiting coaching as she resents me now, for not being there for 12yrs emotionally, quote " she feels like she has always been last on my priority list!"
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Here's my take: you're not quite at panic stage yet. Read up on this website about LB's EN's etc, etc. get some of steve harley's books. Start an aggresive plan A. Turn yourself around. See if she'll go to marriage friendly counseling. If none of this works, it may be time to start snooping, i'm afraid.
Unfortunatly it's probably true that she has been last on your priority list up to now. It's time to put her #1!! And make sure she can see you do it!
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Also, you may want to move your question to General Questions II, that gets more traffic.
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Thanks, had a good talk today for an hour or so. She's rightfully frustrated that what has been obvious is now being acted on. Im so angry at myself because I knew that this is what I should have done going into this season. Then she lost her dad in late Oct. and it really opened all our eyes at how quickly it could end. Keeping my hope alive.
What is LB and the other?
Last edited by Xcoach; 12/31/06 03:19 PM.
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Got the LB 'Love Busters" and so on. She definately is a "Giver" to me and everyone. Her tank is empty. She read that piece today. She has read a few other things also. Giving me hope.
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That's good news. Read up on Emotional Needs (EN's) you need to be fufilling hers now.
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