this is clearly a site of cult behavior otherwise you would all be able to accept someone else's opinion and experience.

good luck bmmg you will need it with your situation and if you continue to only listen to one sided biased opinions. Believing in building something that is not there is just a waste of time. She is not there and she has told him so. She is not ready to leave her lover but she is being forced to do so, it cannot work. She does not desire her husband as I didn't and don't.

smart observation - he is on the sidelines now, the OM will be on the sidelines later, she will not walk away as she did not with her husband but yet it was accepted. This is a woman with no desire to be honest with anyone. I was honest, I didn't think my desire would come back but I also voiced that and he wanted to try it and it did not come back. I am currently back with my boyfriend that was on the sidelines. My desire for him never subsided, it was not for a lack of trying.

BWHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

the ol' "you are a cult" tactic

WRONG

we are NOT a cult

we are just waiting for Halebop

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Yes, I agree with anything Pep says


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Someone on this site called Noddle gave me a chance to tell my story. If you want to read it Bmmg just go to "Yo Bosslady" by Noodle.

Again good luck to you.

no thanks.

Sorry that happened bmmg. Hopefully you can now continue your thread in peace.

bmmg you can continue your peace if you refuse to face the facts if you face them then you won't have peace but you will have truth and reality.

for some reason a new MB poster has chosen to exclusively pick on you bmmg

I strongly urge you to put such a poster on ignore

there is clearly someting amiss here

Pep

Bmmg,

Can you please give us an update. It is hard whe this keeps happening.

thanks

Think what you like PEP but I was only on this site because of the subject as it was very much like my own experience. I am not drawn to one sided opinions, that is dangerous and you say that she is in a fog but you are creating one for this poor guy, he will not see reality asking you guys for your advice.

M2L - thanks for asking.. I will post again next week sometime- I do like the ignore feature. Pepperband, you are correct - it is obviously someone not right in the head. Or just messing around on here for kicks. No big deal at all -

I have gotten some really good inform. on here - I will probably send some emails privately -

I have to decided if I can deal with the whole situation with my wife -and I am not totally sure that I can. The mixed messages - and all of the past - and all of the present - but i have gotten some really good tips on this sight.
thanks -

Whose reality? Your reality as you choose to make it? A reality constructed around choices that you justify? Or reality composed of mores of a community based on trying to build and strengthen marriages? Just because the general perspective here doesn't match yours doesn't make it any less real. And vice versa. You support the facts of your reality with your experience which have been defined by your choices. Your choices are yours and yours alone. They do not constitute any objective reality. If "this poor guy" is interested in restoring feelings in his marriage (sexual and otherwise), your experience might be useful to him if you help him figure out which choices of yours led to not restoring the feelings in your situation. He has a goal and is looking for solutions to get there. You are invalidating his goal as unachievable and unrealistic and supporting this with the "facts" of your experience. We all know there are no guarantees here, yet we are doing what we can to sway the scales. It's a risk we take knowingly. If you want to help, than help, if you want to invalidate and disrespect people, do it elsewhere.

This is a Marriage BUILDERS SUPPORT site.

If you can not SUPPORT this posters efforts, please refrain from posting!

Now THAT is a great idea Muddle! THAT would be on the money towards helping Bmmg!

Bmmg,

don't get off your thread because of this stuff happening. There are many good people with lots to say.

Nobody will blame you if your don't feel like it will work out with your wife, but you have to give it very shot you can. Keep going and don't stop unit you can't give anymore and then give one more time.

I know your hurt and just want the pain to end. You have to keep getting back up each time you are knocked down. Get back up and give it your all one more time.

It will be worth it in the end.

The problem here is you are not putting any responsiblity on the offender which is his wife. She is been allowed to move back without leaving her lover first or at least move back in a day or two later. You cannot go from one to another without a break and expect it to work as there are unresolved feelings for the lover. This guy deserves alot better than she is willing to give. You tell him to keep getting up and going, when does it become enough from your advice here never, so in other words he is to keep going on something only he is interested in she is clear on her undesire for him. I can't sit back and watch you "convince" some guy that is clearly in his own fog and mostly because of your advice. I do encourage him to get away from the situation which includes her (at least for 90 days) and you and me.

If you want this guy to get away from you for 90 days, then why do you keep coming back here ON HIS THREAD?

I feel embarrassed for you

and to think I got slapped by Believer for picking this troll yesterday. Presumably my apology is in the mail.

J95 was/is your wife telling you the same things? She was not sexually into you. Or has anyone else have the same experience? Sounded like ya'll have been through it. How long does it take for them to stop the withdrawl and get the drive back?