I have been married for almost 6 years and my wife joined the army about 3 years ago and since than things have been getting worse and worse. She just got back from a deployment and I am in now. We have had are problems and I am not very good at knowing what to say and when to say it I also say things that most people keep in their head. But anyway on with the subject at hand.When she was deployed she had 2 affairs and she told me that we where done. I went along with it and because we where fighting alot. Right before she came home I realized how much I missed her and we started talking and trying to save what is left of are marriage. She is living with me but keeps talking about moving out and she says she just wants some space but that she is still willing to work on it. I think that if she moves out the finiacal buriden along with the space will destoy whats left of us. If anyone can help please let me know about anything and should I try to influnce her to stay here with me and we have 2 kids.

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You may want to post in GQII. I'm retired from the AF, so I'm familiar with military. You may want to talk to your W's 1st SGT or Commander; adultery is illegal in the military.

Also, read this entire website. His Needs/Her Needs, Surviving an Affair. How old are you and WW...and the children?