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This is a strange one....
I’ve experienced morning where I had many bad feelings and questions for my FWW concerning the affair. I noticed that the mornings were particularly worse then any other part of the day for me and basically set the mood for the day. I recently had a particularly bad dream that I was able to recall as it came soon before waking. Once awake my head was filled with feelings, questions and uncertainties about the details of the affair. Could some of my questions and fears be products of dreams that I do not remember? Could this be a symptom for bad feelings in the mornings? Is anyone else experiencing this same behavior? And is there a way to redirect these feelings so early in the morning? This has not been a good way to start the day.
D-Day Sept 4th 2006 (Labor Day Holiday)
No Holiday for me...
Numerous D-Day's
BS - 50
FWS - 47
Three Children DD(26) DD(24) DS(21)
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Once awake my head was filled with feelings, questions and uncertainties about the details of the affair. This sounds like a normal state of mind for a recovering BS. You are supposed to have lots of feelings, uncertainties and questions about the affair. Is your H answering all of your questions to your satisfaction?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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It is not uncommon to have these dreams. I have been having many dreams about my WH lately, as I think reality is really taking hold with me, and the feeling of loss is complete.
In your case, it sounds like you have unanswered questions, and fear. Get whatever questions about the A answered (that your WW is willing to answer, without LB), and work on your fear. These types of dreams can also manifest because of general stress, which I'm sure we all suffer...
Me-BS-38
Married 1997; son, 8yo
Divorced April 2009
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