Hi everyone- just an update- I thought I'd post it on a new thread becasue the old one was pretty depressing... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />
BH did not get me anything material for Christmas. He told me he was not going to, so it was not a surprise. So I bought myself some things and gave them to myself. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> I did get him Christmas presents from the children, and he did unwrap them.
But at the end of Christmas Day, he came up to me, hugged me tightly, said, "I love you and we are going to get through this no matter what. That is the Christmas present I'm giving to you."
I told him it was the only one I wanted.
And yesterday we were having a pretty serious disagreement about my son from a previous marriage and how I'll probably get hit with the "I want to live with my dad" when he gets home from Christmas vacation. And BH said something really mean about how I could just go sleep in the guest room becasue he was mad at me and didnt' want to sleep with me. I said calmly, "I know this isnt' the best conversation to have, and it's emotional and we are not agreeing. However, I think you are out of line to say things like that when I dont' just agree with your point of view." He said, "You're right, and I apologize. I was just saying it to be a jerk. I think we should table this discussion until we both are a little calmer." Which I agreed with. It is still not totally resolved, but it actually doesnt' need to be.
Sooooo- a good Christmas present, some hope for the future. In fact, a funny thing- I got frustrated and asked him how long he was going to be mean, and he said, "Until March," which would be 1 year from d-day. I know that's an arbitrary date, and his feelings about this will not just shut off at the end of March, but it sounded like he's given himself a timeframe.
Is that common?
