PERHAPS I SHOULD HAVE STARTED FROM THE BEGINING OF THE TROUBLE. MY WIFE IS THE ONLY CHILD AND IS VERY CLOSE TO HER PARENTS. MY MOTHER WAS DIAGNOSED WITH TERMINAL ILLNESS IN 2002. WE WERE ALREADY ENGAGED. WE DECIDED TO GET MARRIED IN TIME FOR MY MOTHER TO ATTEND IN FALL 2003, SHE DID, IT WAS A GREAT DAY. AS THE NEXT YEAR WENT ON I SPENT A GREAT DEAL OF TIME TAKING CARE OF MOM (KHEMO,BONE MARROW TRANSPLANTS). I DETECTED PROBLEMS WITH WIFE THEN. SHE BEGAN TO BECOME DISTANT AND ANGRY. I BEGAN TO RESENT HER BEHAVIOR DURING MY MOMS ILLNESS. MY MOM DIED IN 04. AT THIS TIME WE HAD TO TAKE IN MY 19 YR OLD SISTER. THAT MADE A LOT OF ADDITIONAL PROBLEMS. WIFE BEGAN STAYING AT HER PARENTS 24/7 IN JUNE 05 SISTER WAS ASKED TO MOVE OUT. I WAS ANGRY. FOR THE NEXT FIVE MONTHS THE WIFE MADE LOVE TO ME APPROX 3 TO 4 TIMES AND SHE STILL WENT TO HER PARENTS ALL THE TIME .IN DEC. 05 I HAD A THREE MONTH AFFAIR AND TOLD ALL IN FEB 06. WE WERE DOING REALLY WELL UNTIL JULY WHEN WIFE BECAME DISTANT WHICH WAS FOLLOWED BY HER CHANGING THE WAY SHE DRESSES AND TOOK OFF WEDDING RINGS. AFTER TRIAL SEPARATION SHE SAYS SHE WANTS D. I DONT.

chtd..try to keep it all on one thread, as your "story" will be easier to follow.

You can copy/paste the post above to your other thread, to simplify things. Thanks!