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Well if those assumptions are not true, why would you remain in the marriage?
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
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Well, financial or custody reasons immediately comes to mind as two possibilities, but generally it's quite possible people chose to remain in their A-affected Ms not because they wanted to, but because it was the better option open to them when compared to the alternative.
So, of course, when a better option presents itself in the future ...
I think that the assumption that every or even nearly every M that survives an A is a happy one is probably not a valid one.
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Well MIM that may be true but I think your assumption that But face it - is the situation any different for us that choose to remain in an M with partners that have already demonstrated to us that they are capable of turning to someone else and deceiving us in the worst possible manner? Is equally wrong. I believe the situations ARE different for the reasons I stated.
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
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