My first post so forgive if i make mistakes.
Been married 15 years rocky off and on for most , we were both stuborn .we have 3 children 14,10,6
We had not spoken for 10 months when I found out she had been in at least an EA for 2 1/2 months maybe more , I confronted her about it and got the usual " were just friends" line .I also found she had a PO box and got post card calling her beautiful.
I decided to file for divorce , after filing she got her own cell phone (I found out about it but did not tell her i knew).
We started talking again and I started working on myself and things got better but unfulfilling for me . She had always recipracated my affections but never ignitiated any.
I put he divorce on hold to work on myself .
It's been 3 months now ,I know she's still talking to him ,maybe more. I saw her on the phone when she drove by me but no record on our cell log so it was on HER cell phone ,which she denines she has of course.
I'm so tired of all the lies , I doubt I'll ever trust her again and just beleave it maybe best for me to just move forward with the divorce.
Any input would be greatful

Repost this in the General Question II forum and you will get immediate responses. The first thing that I would do is to stand up for your marriage and to your WW. DO NOT LET HER TALK TO OM, AND DON'T BY HER JUST FRIENDS BS. You also need to expose the A to anyone and everyone that would be in a position to end the affair. Expose to her entire family, her friends, (if it is with a coworker) her boss, and find who the OM is and expose to his significant other and his family. It really doesn't take much detective work to find the OM nowadays with the internet and all.

Also ready the post "For Newly Betrayed Spouses" on this forum.

I'm sorry you find yourself here and in this position. If you want to save your marriage, it is important for your wife to agree to "No Contact" and to go for counseling. You say you found out about her new cell phone -- how. Show her the proof if she continues to deny it. Are you living together now? Or are you separated? It sounds to me as if you are giving up on the marriage. To say that you will never trust her again is pretty harsh, and frankly, if I had had that attitude with my former WH, we wouldn't be 6 years into recovery and happier than ever. The choice is really yours. Do you love her enough to work your tail off to get her back (that's what I had to do), or do you just want "out"?