On Saturday (7/5/07) I called and talked to the girls at 9:30AM asked to make sure they were going to be at Karate practice at 10:30... They said no mom wasn't going to take them.... I asked to speak to their mother, she got on the phone. I was very polite but asked if they were or were not going to Karate, she said no they weren't said she had things to do... Its every weekend with her they have things to do....I reminded her that this was a commitment we asked the kids to make and that it’s a bad precedent if we do not make the honor commitements like Karate practice... She immediately went into a rant about me controlling her, how its her weekend and I am trying to control her. I said no its about setting the example and help the girls realize if you make a commitement you have to honor it. I then asked her if she was taking the oldest to the farm so she could be with her friends and her pony (oldest is missing her pony very sad) She gain said I was controlling and manipulating. I said I just want to make sure that we keep the interest of the kids first. I know the girls want to go to karate and to the farm and they feel they have no influence on their mother, I think they will go now because of my asking and point out best interest of the kids.

She has regurlarly used the kids to punish me and or so she can stay away from me she won't let the kids do things that involve me being there.

She made a comment about oh how I left the girls at friends house all day and let the girls spend the night - oh I must be a bad father not wanting to spend that time with the kids - in fact I wanted to insure the kids have a normal life with their friends so I arranged play dates and sleep over's something we have done for years. AND the kids friends regularly spend the entire weekend with me and the girls. I have more weekends with 4-5 kids vs weekends that I have just my 3 or less. So I know that will come up in court but I think my answer above is what is right

Load your guns Vike. You WW is exactly like all the rest. It's all about them. That's why they had and continue the A and wallowing in sin. They know it's wrong and it's hurting loved ones, they just don't care. This is about them by God. I want what I want and I don't care about anyone else.

This kind of thing is to be documented and used in court. Don't worry about the spending the night thing. I would also let her have sleep overs at your home as well. In advance I want to send prayers and well wishes for you on Jan. 11-12. I pray you get a moral, principled and wise Judge willing to call a spade a spade and deal with the ugliness of adultery and it's associated problems (rash judgement, instability, OM's influence, bad examples for kids, abandonment, selfishness, entitlement, and more) that do not bode well for people to parent children effectively in the future, IMO.

vikingruler,

I am with you, man. I have a court date on Jan 8, unless something magical happens this weekend. Stay on the path YOU are on, so YOU will know you are doing the right things. You are right for wanting your kids to have a normal life in the midst of this mess. That is the best thing for them.

My prayers are with you and your girls and WW.

You deserve better. Get through these tough times. Take the hard lessons learned and make a better life for yourself and your children.