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I have been married for 4 1/2 years. We have 2 kids, D-4yrs, S-5mths. I caught my husband cheating on me 3 months ago...before that he looked at porn. He admitted he has been lookin at porn every once in a while for about 4 years. he promise he wouldn't do it again. today I found out he looked at porn again.

Husband says he loves me and wants to be a family together
ended the affair.

He cheated on me with a woman from a previous relationship and they have a 5yr son together who stays every other weekend. They didn't have sex yet, but an affair is a affair.

*(before we were married, he cheated on me and concieved his son)*


So this OW will be in our lives for another 13 more years!
How am I to move on???
WHAT DO I DO???
We haven't talked about the porn or the cheating accept for a couple of times...he promises to talk..but never does. he thinks by not talking..it will go away.
He knows how much the porn hurts me..but...continues to look at it!!!
HELP!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

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Welcome to MB and sorry to see you here.

Regarding th captioned questions above:

Porn:
Convey how this makes you feel to your husband. Ask him to leave his history and passwords available for your review. Then install spyware in order to verify his history and to capture any porn activity or other suspicious behavior.

OW:
1) Expose the A to anyone who has influence over the 2 individuals. Particularly, OWH or BF.
2) Insist on NC letter and arrange for intermediate to pick up other child. WH should have NO CONTACt with this women.
3) Jointly fill out the EN questionnare to attempt to reconcile any shortcomings in your M which contributed to his A.


Read up on Plan A and read HNHN, SAA, and Love Must be tough as a good start.

Good Luck and stay positive.


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Thanks for your reply!

for the porn, when he wasnt on it...i checked in the "history" part. and seen where he'd been. but, it can be easily erased. as he did when i rechecked it.
he's a computer technition so- he knows everything i put on the computer.

OW:
1.) the OW BF knows about the affair.
2.) OW would not let me pick up the child. but luckily I got that finalized by the judge a couple weeks ago.
3.) what do the questionaire do?

I will read up on all of this...what is SAA and HNHN?

Thanks!


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