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When she started in on me, I didn't even have an emotional reaction. It was almost relief that I felt because finally I saw some true validation of what I have been reading here. I remember thinking "Ah-ha! So this is it!".
And then she went out again and was acting like nothing had happened "Ok, I'm going out and will be back in a bit, do you need anything?"
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Exactly!!!!!
You need to get detached enought to see it for what it is..... Cr## Blah Blah Blah
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Exactly!!!!!
You need to get detached enought to see it for what it is..... Cr## Blah Blah Blah I have more or less seperated myself from the situation on an emotional level. If I have to cry, I'll cry later. Some days are tougher than others. Tonight, when she did this, was highest I have been emotionally since this ordeal began. Now, on to the emotional needs board to try to figure out how I am going to fulfill emotional needs for someone who doesn't want them from me. Any suggestions? Affection and comminication are the big ones with her.
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Just, remember someone said: It's like being on a "Long First Date".
It'll come to you.
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Dogfood - with respect to the EN board, you may prefer staying on GQII
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Just, remember someone said: It's like being on a "Long First Date".
It'll come to you. Yup...and I am hoping for the kiss at the end of it.
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Dogfood - with respect to the EN board, you may prefer staying on GQII Will do. I was over there browsing a bit and see what you mean.
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BTW,
read Lil'Sis thread. Sshe is doing an incredible Plan A and WH has moved out. They have children so there is still contact going on with them. WH is still seeing OW. But what a Plan A!!!! And it is making an impact.
So it can be done if you are determined enough to keep at it. She moves out just readjust how you work it. Go see her at the coffee shop. Hey it worked for the OM didn't it?
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BTW,
read Lil'Sis thread. Sshe is doing an incredible Plan A and WH has moved out. They have children so there is still contact going on with them. WH is still seeing OW. But what a Plan A!!!! And it is making an impact.
So it can be done if you are determined enough to keep at it. She moves out just readjust how you work it. Go see her at the coffee shop. Hey it worked for the OM didn't it? I did a search and couldn't find it. Do you have a link?
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WS - 25
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I guess it's just LilSis with no " ' "
It's usally near the top with 5 stars
Not sure how to link.
Sorry it's only 4 stars. bad glasses.
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I guess it's just LilSis with no " ' "
It's usally near the top with 5 stars
Not sure how to link. Ok, found it. Thanks!
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Well Duh! I shoulda thought o that!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> thanks Big K <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
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She is home now. She asked what I had for dinner (frozen pizza) and I told her I didn't like that stuff anymore and that I might hit her up for some cooking lessons. She joked that it would cost me $40 an hour. Given the situation, I wasn't sure if she was joking or not. She smiled and said "That's a joke, son" (which is usually my line).
I am looking forward to the cooking lessons. Since this is probably not the time to re-connect with my WW, when should I ask for them?
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Whenever she's ready to teach them. Hello? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
A great way to connect with her. Make it FUN! Maybe not a food fight opportunity, but still...
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Sounds like an opportunity not to be ignored.
Did somebody say food fight????
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He he, I may just try that.
I found out where she is planning on moving to. She hasn't submitted the application yet, but will probably do so today. I found it while doing my morning snoop.
I can talk to them, but legally, they cannot deny her for this reason. This is also a restricted income type of place, so she doesn't need to make a whole lot of money to get it.
If I do talk to them, any suggestions on what to say to them?
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If I do talk to them, any suggestions on what to say to them?
Sure. I would call them from a payphone and tell them that you are from another apartment co in the area (insert name here) and just wanted them to know that Mrs.Dog and(make up a few more names here) have been less than stellar renters. Late paying - whatever. You are calling because you are sick of getting stuck all the time with crappy renters and you wish that more apartment co would work togther like this in the future. Neighbor helping neighbor kinda thing. Add that you can't tell them what to do with the info, but thought they would like to know.
This is WAR
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Just what are you thinking of?
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Well M2l that is playing dirty!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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