I have entered the World of Midnight. I have gone dark.

Did you leave the letter?

Yes I did. It has been read.

Keep yer head up Dog - you have grown so much. I know it's hard. God Bless

Godspeed, DF. I'm positive that everything will turn out for the best with you. I'll pray that everything turns out okay for your WW.

Did ya....

Change your online banking passwords?
Change all your email passwords?
change your secret questions to keep people who have your info from recovering your passwords?
Check the computer for any unexpected programs installed on it?
sign up for a credit monitoring service?



and remember .. its to preserve your sanity, SANITY.
Wayward spouses always try to make it about them.
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DF,

Welcome to PLan B... I'm sorry you are here. But I know you feel better once you are out of the chaos of the A.

I'm sorry I really had thought things were going good between you and your WW. I guess I haven't been keeping up on your thread.

Stay strong and keep your head up from a fellow plan Ber.

Still

For obvious reasons, this will more than likely be one of my last posts on MB. I will post the occasional update on how I am doing, but they will be sparse. I want to thank everyone here for your support. Many heartfelt thanks for helping me cope with this most difficult time of my life.

Thank you.

Going dark was probably the most difficult decision I have ever had to make, but one that needed to be done. I wrote my letter and explained everything. But, I am not sure she will truly understand why I have done this. Hopefully, one day, she will.

Most WS don't understand Plan B.

It's difficult for them to grasp that you are trying to protect your love for them, before it is completely destroyed by their adultery.

What an amazing gift of love Plan B really is!

I know it's tough to begin, but once you get there and settle into it, you'll find what most BS find.

Peace, healing and plenty of personal growth.

Know that many will be praying for you.

~ Marsh

Dog,

I have never posted on your thread but I have followed it from the start. My WW did not understand Plan B when it started and 61 days later still does not.

We describe it as dark but surprisingly soon there is a freedom and light and a new perspective for you. Plan B is about you. Check the newest posts at the Killer Bee thread. See what Jayban wrote there too.

You have fought amazingly hard to save your marriage. Now save you.

Dog, I, too have not posted to you, but wanted to let you know that you will be going through a lot of changes over the next month, and you will probably feel a need to talk about it. Please consider posting here, getting the support you will need. The first month can be strange, to say the least.

You WILL begin to feel better, even happier, and you will emerge from your own fog; it's really strange when it happens, but it helps you to become stronger.

Let's see you take care of yourself now. I've heard it said many times over, but, usually, Plan B is needed to save a marriage. That dang cloud that's been hanging over you will begin to disappear.

Don't sign off just yet, okay...hang out with the Killer Bee's...

Hey, Dog

I haven't posted to you either, but there are a lot of people around here that can help you with what you're starting into. Like Chris said, we call it dark, but that's what the WS is supposed to see, not how it is for you. It will be a change--it will be hard at first but will gradually get easier, then liberating.

Like SL said, please continue posting. I know that I have had many instances of "Gee, I wasn't expecting to feel X. Does anyone else feel X?" only to hear "Yes! I totally feel X. It's a relief to hear that someone else feels X." That happened for me just now over on the Killer Bee thread. Staying in touch here will likely help you get into your Plan B. The Killer Bees are a pretty cool group, too.

Good luck. Take care of yourself. You are doing the right thing.

dog don't go... We are in this mess togeather..

Dog, I understand what a completely heartwrenching decision this has been for you. The conflict between the desire to continue to be there and fight for your W even though she is with the OM and the need to preserve the love that you stiil hold for her while she remains in her A has to have made this decision a monumental struggle.

In the end the only thing left for you is to remove yourself from the chaos that has been perpetrated upon you by your W decision to openly flaunt her A in front of you. To disregard you as if you no longer mattered. This is an act of disrespect that you can no longer ignor. It will ultimately cause you to lose all your remaining love and in the end to give up the fight to save your M.

So the decision to move to Plan B to protect your love for your W is an act of total love and dedication to her and your M. By making this decision you are demonstrating a love that is enduring and you are doing all that is possible in this sitch to allow you to be there ready to recover your M when her A comes to an end.

Continue to be the stable one that she married and that she can rely on when she is ready to recommit to the M. We are continuing to pray for you and your W in this painful time.

Hey DF..I have been keeping up with your post from time to time and I know so much how you feel. My WH came home from overseas last week and got his stuff and moved out last Thursday. It felt like the rest of my heart was being ripped from my body. I cried all day Thursday/Friday. It sucks so bad. We are legally seperated (all his doing, I did not want it). He is still in town and won't be going back until next week (he is w/ his parents right now). So I know what pain and agony you are feeling. But I remained strong, for the most part. Yes, I did cry in front of him but when it was all said and done and it was the end, I walked away from him w/ my head held high and walked out that door w/ our dog in tow. I was not going to let him walk away from me. He has already said that he regrets this LSA but, right now, its too late. Hold your head up and know that this pain will not be like this forever. I know it feels like it is never going to end but it will get easier and it will not hurt as much. I can promise you that.

t_e:

We told you so. I hope you've learned something from your participation in all this.

I know 'Food has.

I know his STBXWW will.

-ol' 2long

How you doing dog?

Day 12.
Doing alright and doing lots of thinking about stuff and things.

'Food:

Good 2 hear things are okay. I lost all the emails in my inbox, so I've lost your address. So, glad you're doing okay.

-ol' 2long

Food, I've been talking a lot to VS.

I don't trivialize your pain or his. Trust me, though, if this doesn't work out you'll look back one day and than God you never had kids with these women.

Both of your wives sound like they have childhood issues.

I'm seeing that a lot on this board.