Hi all, if you'd like to read about my story please go this link:

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...rue#Post3156935

Well after a year of ups and downs, triumphs and tragedies, Plan A, Plan B, back to Plan A, in and out of the fog i'm throwing in the towel. Last night the WW sent me this email after I told her that I and not her would be claiming our son on the taxes (by the way he has lived with me since march):

"Well, I want to begin by apologizing for me questioning who would claim our son on our taxes. Really, what was I thinking? You make plenty of money, have a job in with the military, your mommy's money, the tax credit on the house, the day care credit, and everything in the house, all the money accured between us during our marriage, last years tax return money and everthing else. Heaven forbid, me as a full time student and working a full time job receive any type of financial break for a child that I gave birth to and raise nearly soley on my own for two years. For a minute, I almost forgot what a selfish person you were. I now remember you are the controlling person and the only person who can suceed in life. I supported you unselfishly for many years, stood by your side during all your training and career advancements sacraficed my own career to better you and focused all my attention on my son.
But that's fine, I am a good person and know that deep down in my heart. I truly believe in karma and one day there will be a judgement day whether it be with god or yourself but you will have to deal with all the terrible things you have done to me in the past year and the guilt of knowing you were a terrible husband and an absent and neglecting father during our marriage. Painknowsme, we can't change the past... it is what it is but also no amount of money will change it or mask the past. I know this email will mean nothing to you and why I even waste my time typing it because you are unable to think of anyone other than yourself. I also apologize for communicating with you via email but you have the communication skills of a rock."

Talk about classic fog speak! I'm not even going to address the re-written history all over that email. After of a year of trying (albiet sometimes all out effort and sometimes half-hearted effort), the fat lady is singing and it's time to move on.

I do plan on hanging out here and trying to help where it is needed, and to try to steer others away from the mistakes I have made.

I will say that although I have never met any of you, I believe that this collective body has some of the finest people anywhere. People who care about one another and selflessly give advice, and are always willing to accept newcomers.

Ex-Vietnam POW Charlie Plumb said, "The difference between winning and loosing is not what surrounds you. The difference comes from within." Please take that advice to heart.

I hope and pray that every marrigebuilder on this forum can face their adversity with courage and faith, and succeed where I have failed. I am rooting for you.

You have not failed; your WW has. If I read the above email, all I see is BLAH BLAH BLAH, me me me...

I especially like her brilliant reference to KARMA, I can't believe she went there; I'm sorry, but that one cracked me up...Bwahaahahahahhaha. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

If you want a suggestion, just let it lay. Let her contact you. Forgive me, but I am not familiar with your sitch, so I'm just speaking regarding the above email. I have no idea how long your WW has been out of her A, or if she is completely, or if still in withdrawal. She's desperate for something to go right, and this is not that time! She doesn't sound like she understands YET the full ramifications of the decisions she's made.

Saw, heard and still hear BS like this... from EX WW. ALl I ever want to hear is I am so sorry for hurting you and our children, for becoming a wh*re and destroying our family, for allowing myself to become so entitled and selfish, to have disregarded your feelings and pain only looking at myself, for not getting help I needed to find out why I have become this person, for the hurt I see in our children's eyes everytime we exchange, for seeing the OM as a knight in shining armor instead of the cheating, low life POS I now know he is, for all the nights you were home with our children and I was having sex with this POS, for forever taking away your ability to truly trust someone, for trying to destroy your future interests in relationships, for the pain I have caused our friends, families, OM's family, for moving in with the OM, in his house while he's still married, for exposing our dear children to this loser, for violating everything that I was and proclaimed to be, for not appreciating what I had, and for many other things I will think of.......

Other than this I don't care to hear anything from her!

HP--I'd have liked to hear that too.

To the original poster--only you know when the fat lady is singing. And only you can say enough is enough. While it might seem like a much needed rest to finally have a decision made, it will still be a battle to keep moving forward. But it's overcomable and it's not YOUR fault. I know thati feel like a failure too, sometimes, but really, you're not. I'm not. None of us are. We are either trying or have tried to save. That says a lot.

To be honest I did reply with a few LBs of my own. Believe it or not, those were my first LBs in over a year. Of course now I wish I could recall that email. Oh well.

I've reached the point where I am no longer motivated to expend energy in a hopeless attempt to save my marriage. I'm tired of pursueing the uncatchable. In the almost 1.5 years of this disaster she has not once been fully truthful and expressed any sort of regret. I'm not holding my breath anymore waiting for any such communication. I'm ready to get the D final and move on. I know that at one point it was 'over' between WW and OM, but I'm not sure now, and to be honest I just don't care.

Send the selfish, entitled, "it's everyone else's fault, woman on her way......She doesn't and may never truly get what she's done.