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Seems like a typical problem, but I didn't really find an answer yet on the site, so...
The POJA requires both spouses to be enthusiastic. What do we do if one partner wants to work on the marriage and the other doesn't? In His Needs... (at least a version from over 10 years ago) Dr. Harley talked about wives maybe having to leave their husbands temporarily to get them to be willing to work on things. On this website, it says not to "spring" their courses onto a spouse, who may not appreciate it so much!
So, what are the recommendations for the spouse who wants change and/or outside help in the marriage, but whose partner is reluctant? How do we get the ball rolling, or what are the first steps we take? (In my situation: we're still together; no affairs to the best of my knowledge and I feel rather confident about that; I guess I'm generally in crisis; married over 10 years)
Thanks!
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Grace,
This board gets very little traffic. I suggest that you repost this on the Emotional Needs board (don't worry, it fits there).
What kinds of changes are you hoping to make in your relationship?
Mys
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Thanks! Guess I'll move it to EN.
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