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I hope that it is okay that I post here. Since I was at one time the OW. I first posted here a long time ago. About a XMM co-worker who was coming onto me. I ended up getting into a relationship with him. It lasted for about two years on and off. The entire situation ended as a mess. I no longer talk to him and it has been around a year since it ended.
I really miss him at times. I am in counseling and hoping that it helps. I still cry so much over him. I don't know how I became such a mess. He has a baby now and probably has forgotten all about me. I feel like scraps. I feel like I never mattered a thing to him in the long run. I have posted on other websites but they don't seem to help.
I guess what I need is advice on how to move on. A part of me is having so much trouble with that. I am 25 and have always wanted to have a relationship with a single guy. But I am having so much trouble letting go of these feelings I still have for him. He was my best friend. And a part of me hates that it ended with us no longer speaking. I am having so much trouble moving forward.
Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.
Purina
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I'm sorry that you're going through such a rough time. Many women and men find out the hard way that they are never going to get what they need and deserve if they have an affair with a married person.
I don't know if this is the best advice, but here goes:
1. Start seeing a therapist. Maybe even consider antidepressants to get you through this rough time.
2. Find something to occupy your time. Volunteer for a good cause. This can be very helpful in taking your mind off of your own problems.
Read all of the information about affairs on this website, if you haven't already. There is even a letter to another OW.
Good luck! I'm sorry that you're experiencing this heartbreak. I wish you the best.
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BackAgain,
I am having a terrible day. I went out shopping and saw him with his family at the store. I am thinking that it would be beneficial to me to start taking a antidepressant. I feel like I caused trouble back then without even meaning to. I miss him so much.
Thank you for your post and advice. I appreciate it.
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