After 10 years of marriage and 14 yrs together my wife wanted a divorce due to years of my neglect and my selfishness. She was a great wife that held me on a pedestal and served me, all she wanted was to be loved back. She put all her dreams and goals on the side to support mine which I never followed through. I took her for granted and didn't even realize what I was doing (like most husbands). By the time she told me bluntly what she needed from me I had her "tuned out" due to her excessive bitching (my fault). Now we're on our way to separation to eventually divorce. We're great friends. I've talked to a few divorced men who divorced for the same reasons and I found that their wives usually want them back after a few (3-5) years even if they're involved with someone. Does anyone have anymore information on this glimmer of hope for me?

All I can tell you is, read on everything you can here. Read and learn. I remarried mine but he really did`nt change his ways much, wish we knew about MB back then. Its been a hard road but we have been married 31 years and still working on our marriage. It can happen, change for her and yourself. Good luck

Read. Read. Real.

His Needs, Her Needs (Harley)
Five Love Languages

Assuming there's nobody else involved, you're great friends, then YES, there's hope. Are there kids involved?

If she's just tired of your bad habbits, not getting her emotional needs met, etc, find out her needs and fill it.

Take it from this recent divorcee -- it ain't no fun.

HL