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WH wants to take dresser-what should I do? Hes been moved out 5 weeks
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Jim BS - 32 (me) FWW - 33 Married 8/31/03 No kids (but 3 cats) D-Days - 8/25/06 (EA), 11/3/06 (PA) NC agreed to - 11/8/06 NC broken - 11/28/06, 12/16/06, 1/18/07, 1/26/07, 1/27/07 Status - In Recovery Jim's Story
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I would let him take it. Who cares?
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2nd that. NO.
Marital home, marital property. No can do!
BH - me 53, ONS 1979
FWW - 51, 2 EA's, 1 PA
Last D-Day, Sep. 30, 2003
Last Contact/recovery began 2-26-04
***You can do anything with time and money...but remember...money won't buy you time!***
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Behind the grocery store or gas station WH can potentially pick up some egg crates. He can stack them to the ceiling and have the most awesomist frat room on campus.
I say No...but don't throw out the bath with the bath water. Make a small stand ....that is consequence in and of itself and MAY keep him from ever asking for anything else in the house....until the court can handle it and divide it up.
Mr. Wondering
FBH(me)-51 FWW-49 (MrsWondering)
DD19 DS 22 Dday-2005-Recovered
"agree to disagree" = Used when one wants to reject the objective reality of the situation and hopefully replace it with their own.
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So do I just say no??? Someone told me to tell him to get his act together and then move home then he will plenty of room for his clothes. I just feel like this is a consequence (albeit a small one) to his deciding to move out and he really hasnt had too many consequences so far.
How do I tell him he cant take it?
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How do I tell him he cant take it? No. It is marital property in the marital home. If he wants to take his clothes... let him take them...his bike....anything that starts with HIS.... butnot anything that was marriage property. So, you simply say no. Explain only if you need to.
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jrobin,
I had to call the police to my house to stop WW from taking stuff. I took a stand and said the same thing like MEDC said above.
Pissed her off, but maybe one day she will see the strength in what I did.
Divorced on 3/25/2008 but I have primary legal and physical custody of my 2 kids. Plan A Thread Plan B ThreadEphesians 5:25 - Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
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Tell him you don't expect the A to last much longer since you have made a number of improvements, and have a better understanding of what a good wife should be. Tell him you hate to see him go to all that trouble of moving it, when he'll be coming back home soon anyway....all with a wink and a smile.
If he gets testy, then tell him joint property remains in the marital home until the divorce HE files for is settled and the judge says its his. All with a calm, even tone of voice, and a wink and a smile.
If he's coming by to "pick it up", have a platter of his favorite cookies on the counter.
Just some thoughts...
SD
BH - me 53, ONS 1979
FWW - 51, 2 EA's, 1 PA
Last D-Day, Sep. 30, 2003
Last Contact/recovery began 2-26-04
***You can do anything with time and money...but remember...money won't buy you time!***
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