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I have been married 7 months on the 20th of this month. Before this my now husband and I were together 7 years. We have done everything together. We have always been happy. We are memebers of a recreational volleyball team. About 2 months ago a "new" girl came to work at his workplace and he asked her to come. Ever since then things have not been the same. It all started last week. He wanted to start a restuarant business and I thought it was a bad idea and he made some decisions without me. Then on Saturday night we went to the Christmas dinner for his workplace and she was there. Throughout these 2 months when they have been together they are way too "close." After the dinner we all went out. He danced with her (he never dances). From upstairs I saw them talking really close. SO I got mad. He started to tell me he didn't love me anymore. SHe made him realize he could be happier without me. They had been having these conversations at work and she wa leaving her husband too and they were going to be together and his life was devoted to her. The next day he admitted he had lost his love for me 2 months ago when she came into the picture. I have talked to her she and him both said they had no sexual relations and she has no intentions of leaving her husband. She also told him she had no intentions of leaving her husband and when we were talking last night he said "even if we (him and her) don't end up together he knows he would be happier without me. I have asked him can't we try to work it out and he was convinced his feelings won't change. Now he is willing to try to work on our marriage. What do I need to do to help him fall in love with me again?
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December - Repost your story as soon as possible on the General Questions II Forum. There is a lot more traffic there and the experts will start jumping in right away.
I am so sorry for what brought you her but you found a good place to get help.
Start reading immediately about Plan A and emotional needs. The A has to be exposed and killed as soon as possible. You will soon have a lot of input on that.
You have a lot of work to do but it can be done.
Again, repost as soon as you can at GQII.
Last edited by chrisner; 01/17/07 03:29 PM.
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